"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Why do/did you feel a lack of confidence?

Dukester

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i had a terrible childhood too. dad was an alcoholic, etc... ya kno the deal.

i dont use that as an excuse for my lack of confidence. when i didnt have confidence, it was because i beat my self up mentally.
i would take rejections too hard, i would try too much, and i was so utterly AFC it wasnt funny.
but now... well read my signature links
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mack Bishop

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i used to do a lot of drugs so that had me looking like a corpse almost every day
 

White_Rabbit

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Yeah, I had the same problems as many of the ppl here.. acne... alchoholic father.. co-dependant mother... rare skin disease over 95% of my body... molested when I was 8 or so ... um...
obviosly I was picked on in school I look like a freak with chicken pox all over my body for 6 years, but all thats over with I was really mad at the whole world and my self most of all for a long long time but now I say meh what can you do but move on right?
the problem now is I dont really fit in anywhere I look ****ing awsome now.. no acne or skin disease .. I get alot of attn from girls ... to the poin that they just walk up and say " Your hot"
but I'm so defensive and paranoid I'm always just like thanks .. **** you go away.
Its hard for me to cope with the change I mean ... yeah
go from somone who everyone finds repulsive who has to hangout with the biggest losers in town because no one else will even talk to me other than make fun of me... not the kids.. the teachers... the teachers where the ones that always made my life the worste .. o yeah my 3rd grade teacher took way too mutch joy in beating me....
but now ... girls actually pursue ME!! its really wierd. lol
I always assume its a trick or something... like my enemies (have lots of them) are trying to lure me out so they can jump on me from behind(paranoia, but after the first few times I got wise, and a gun) but back to the girl thing... yeah I make awsome first impressions... till they find out I'm insane.
any ideas on this one?
 
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Originally posted by White_Rabbit
Yeah, I had the same problems as many of the ppl here.. acne... alchoholic father.. co-dependant mother... rare skin disease over 95% of my body... molested when I was 8 or so ... um...
obviosly I was picked on in school I look like a freak with chicken pox all over my body for 6 years, but all thats over with I was really mad at the whole world and my self most of all for a long long time but now I say meh what can you do but move on right?
the problem now is I dont really fit in anywhere I look ****ing awsome now.. no acne or skin disease .. I get alot of attn from girls ... to the poin that they just walk up and say " Your hot"
but I'm so defensive and paranoid I'm always just like thanks .. **** you go away.
Its hard for me to cope with the change I mean ... yeah
go from somone who everyone finds repulsive who has to hangout with the biggest losers in town because no one else will even talk to me other than make fun of me... not the kids.. the teachers... the teachers where the ones that always made my life the worste .. o yeah my 3rd grade teacher took way too mutch joy in beating me....
but now ... girls actually pursue ME!! its really wierd. lol
I always assume its a trick or something... like my enemies (have lots of them) are trying to lure me out so they can jump on me from behind(paranoia, but after the first few times I got wise, and a gun) but back to the girl thing... yeah I make awsome first impressions... till they find out I'm insane.
any ideas on this one?
yeah, stop making up shit cause sum people actually got lives like that u fucking faggot
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Adam See

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Not being very popular in my earlier life and friends used to put me down a lot & I took it quite to heart. Also used to have a chronic fear of kissing girls when I was younger, thankfully that isn't a problem anymore! I think that's about it really.
 

Bussey

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Friends were **** bags.
Took advantage of my $$ and entrepreneurial spirit to fund their ****ing "concerts" that were horrible, till I finally said NO and I did em myself, then I made money. I never ever felt comfortable with them, they always had something behind their back.... One incident that i laugh at now, they hog tied me and put me in a closet...
 
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