"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why did she tell her friend but not me?

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My girlfriend told her friend that she’s planning on coming to my town because she hasn’t seen me in a while...

Why tell her friend and not me
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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buhaha, shes playing with you, and managed to get you worried, :)))))))))))

or she simply doesnt care
Doubt that... her friend told me that my Gf is planning on coming to my town to see me because she hasn’t seen me in awhile.

She wouldn’t be doing it if she didn’t care.
 

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Doubt that... her friend told me that my Gf is planning on coming to my town to see me because she hasn’t seen me in awhile.

She wouldn’t be doing it if she didn’t care.
Then she’s going to surprise visit you, but her friend warned you. Act surprised.
 

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Then she’s going to surprise visit you, but her friend warned you. Act surprised.
I just hope it isn’t during the week... I’m busy and spend most of the time doing business in the city... Tuesday I have to pick my dad up and Wednesday I’m going to watch a match with a friend.

I would definitely act surprised... I wouldn’t expect it since she’s been really busy lately.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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My girlfriend told her friend that she’s planning on coming to my town because she hasn’t seen me in a while...

Why tell her friend and not me
A) She genuinely wants to surprise you
B) She wants to surprise you BUT wants to catch you in the act if you're up to no good
C) She hopes to catch you messing around so she can dump you and F the hot guy she knows the following week (kidding but in some ways can be true)
 

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I think the OP is a lesbian. Can't explain this thread's subject matter otherwise.
 

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My girlfriend told her friend that she’s planning on coming to my town because she hasn’t seen me in a while...

Why tell her friend and not me


If she is planning to surprise you, then that is why she didnt tell you. If she is planning a visit and just not telling you at all, the she isnt your girlfriend.

Few things could be going on.

1. She wants to surprise you
2. She wants to spy on you.
3. She is fukking some other dude and doesnt need the hastle of you spoiling her plans.

Wait for her trip. If she comes and goes and never says anything to you, you cut bait and go date other women
 

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A) She genuinely wants to surprise you
B) She wants to surprise you BUT wants to catch you in the act if you're up to no good
C) She hopes to catch you messing around so she can dump you and F the hot guy she knows the following week (kidding but in some ways can be true)
Didnt see this post before i answered. I see we had the same train of thought.
 

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Didnt see this post before i answered. I see we had the same train of thought.
:::High Five::: Experience knows the possibilities and Women do sh*t like this a lot for both good intentions and bad.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Right so I have been in touch with her...

I sent her a text this afternoon:

Me “Hey! Have you got any free time, I would love to see you?”

Her “I couldn’t come this weekend because I have exams on Monday, I can’t come next week either because I have a rugby tournament”

Me “Right I see, well let me know when you do find the time and we can make plans then”

Her “That works for me...”

If she had left it at that, it would have been the end, but she then texts:

“How have you been?”
 

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Either her friend is lying (doubtful) or she is (most likely).

Small but accumulative variations within her behaviour has likely kicked in ur instincts and made you ask us this seemingly "innocent act" of visiting you.

Trust ur gut.
 

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A) She genuinely wants to surprise you
B) She wants to surprise you BUT wants to catch you in the act if you're up to no good
C) She hopes to catch you messing around so she can dump you and F the hot guy she knows the following week (kidding but in some ways can be true)
D) She is coming to meet someone else
 

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Right so I have been in touch with her...

I sent her a text this afternoon:

Me “Hey! Have you got any free time, I would love to see you?”

Her “I couldn’t come this weekend because I have exams on Monday, I can’t come next week either because I have a rugby tournament”

Me “Right I see, well let me know when you do find the time and we can make plans then”

Her “That works for me...”

If she had left it at that, it would have been the end, but she then texts:

“How have you been?”

"Ive been great. I've been having a great time with sally/linda (inset female name here)

She's great company and a cool chick. How have you been?"


Then leave it at that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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