"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Why did she cry?

thebiglimp

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i met this girl on tinder for a one night stand, sex is incredible, turns into two, three night stands. i wanna make it more permanent, a relationship, so i ask her out, she refuses, we still meet for you-know-what, then on the fifth and the last time, i let it be known in so many words that i will not see her again unless we go on a date. once again she refuses, letting me know that this is pure tinder/sex thing and she has other guys lined up. but somehow we get emotional in the end of the night, and as i leave, she starts crying. sad, genuine tears. i comfort her, assuring her that she can trust me.

so we go on a date the next week, planning to spend the whole day together but she overreacts on little things i say, acting pissed off all day, and after dinner, tells me to go home. we barely had any communication that day, her just overreacting and ignoring me, while still spending time together for 6 hours... we now only text briefly, and she avoids the question of next date.

the girl definitely has an abandonment issues, and i'd like to know why she behaved that way during the date, and why she cried.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Tictac

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You are not a psychotherapist. Neither is anyone else here. Even if someone was there isn't enough info to go on.

She told you clearly what she wanted. You didn't listen. Your bad.

People cry. Get over it.
 

BackInTheGame78

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Probably because she is acting like the man in the interaction and you like the woman begging her for a "date" when she clearly just wants to get railed. What the hell is wrong with you?

Guys on here post trying to get laid, you are getting laid and then you try and get all emotional and act like a woman. It's HER job to push for that, not yours. Nothing kills attraction faster than a man acting like a woman.
 

El Payaso

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So let me get this straight. A girl only wanted to keep things on f*ck buddy terms but you were pushing for relationship things like dates? Ay dios mío....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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usernamedox11

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why would you want a relationship with that wh0re? She told you she has other guys lined up to fvck and you still wanna make her your GF? Are you stupid? I'm curious. Where are you from? Sounds like a girl i might now.\

and...this girl is a lost cause, btw.
 
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