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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Sad but true, worse yet is that hb3-4 is not rational as you say, she doesnt realize her condition thus deciding her habits after a cost/gain ration reasoning.Burroughs said:Because for an average fattie the cost to getting thin isn't worth the reward...
your average fattie chick with a cute face lets say an hb3...can still pull desperate hb 6-7 dudes.....you see these couples in every mall...a fattie chick waddling with a in shape but plain faced dude.....the fattie would have to go from an hb3 to a 7...in order to even THINK about pulling hb 10 dudes....and then only as pump and dumps.....so the average fattie hb3 says fvck it dips another ding dong in chocolate fudge and chomps away...she's already got her orbiters of hb6 dudes who she blows every saturday night when the dudes strike out in the club....she's happy with that...plus twinkies taste real good.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
This is an excellent analysis.Burroughs said:Because for an average fattie the cost to getting thin isn't worth the reward...
your average fattie chick with a cute face lets say an hb3...can still pull desperate hb 6-7 dudes.....you see these couples in every mall...a fattie chick waddling with a in shape but plain faced dude.....the fattie would have to go from an hb3 to a 7...in order to even THINK about pulling hb 10 dudes....and then only as pump and dumps.....so the average fattie hb3 says fvck it dips another ding dong in chocolate fudge and chomps away...she's already got her orbiters of hb6 dudes who she blows every saturday night when the dudes strike out in the club....she's happy with that...plus twinkies taste real good.
Couldn't agree more!Lexington said:Sometimes the simplest explanation is the best one. The reason why more women don't do what that woman did is because it's hard to get in shape. It requires a lot of willpower and dedication to accomplish what that woman did.
It's not easy for me to push myself to go to the gym 5 days a week. It's very hard to eat right. It's not easy to bang out those extra two reps at the gym when you're about to break mentally. And I'm a person who was always in decent shape. It's orders of magnitude harder for an obese person.
We could turn it around on a lot of us here. How come we don't all have 6 packs? How come we're not all shredded? It's not impossible. You just have to hit the gym hard and eat right.
Lexington said:Sometimes the simplest explanation is the best one. The reason why more women don't do what that woman did is because it's hard to get in shape. It requires a lot of willpower and dedication to accomplish what that woman did.
It's not easy for me to push myself to go to the gym 5 days a week. It's very hard to eat right. It's not easy to bang out those extra two reps at the gym when you're about to break mentally. And I'm a person who was always in decent shape. It's orders of magnitude harder for an obese person.
We could turn it around on a lot of us here. How come we don't all have 6 packs? How come we're not all shredded? It's not impossible. You just have to hit the gym hard and eat right.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
HB in HB3 or HB4 means Ham Beast, not Hot Babe.Zarky said:This is an excellent analysis.
However, keep in mind that, by definition, women under 7 can't be "HBs" and "HB" only applies to women because it stands for hot babe.
I think it's a gamble. There have been women who were in shape and got fat after marriage, too.Rollo Tomassi said:Here's an interesting hypothetical for you: Say you hooked up with this woman and she looked marginally hot (an HB7.5 on the Tomassi scale), but at some point she shows you her "fat pictures" to show you how she changed herself; are you more worried that she'll go back to being fat and comfortable once you're in an LTR or married than you would be if you got with a woman who'd always been in shape?
It comes down to a womans penchant for being a product of her environment. A regular beta herb? What does she care. A sniff of a 3 parts alpha 1 part beta, a 10 percenter she's always dreamed about who makes her truly happy in the traditional man/woman sense? You bet she will stay fit, a 10 percenter doesn't tolerate fat assery, she knows this as much as he does.Rollo Tomassi said:Here's an interesting hypothetical for you: Say you hooked up with this woman and she looked marginally hot (an HB7.5 on the Tomassi scale), but at some point she shows you her "fat pictures" to show you how she changed herself; are you more worried that she'll go back to being fat and comfortable once you're in an LTR or married than you would be if you got with a woman who'd always been in shape?
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Zarky said:One of the chicks I'm dating is late 30s and skinny as a rail and always has been. Eats like a horse, too. If I were going to find a long-term prospect I'd search for something like that... someone who's genetically predisposed to being thin. Unfortunately this is rather rare.
She also has a perfect .7 waist-to-hip ratio. Another rarity.
Change the gender and this sounds like me. I always ate like a horse, as you say, and would never gain fat or weight. Think Ed Norton from the Honeymooners. It wasn't until my late 30s that my metabolism slowed down enough that I had to start watching what I ate. I was already exercising a lot, so that wasn't the problem. It was quite an eye opener. We are not immortal, gentlemen.Zarky said:One of the chicks I'm dating is late 30s and skinny as a rail and always has been. Eats like a horse, too. If I were going to find a long-term prospect I'd search for something like that... someone who's genetically predisposed to being thin.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.