Some will be nervous around me or when they see me coming towards them they'll have this scared/nervous look on their face. I'm not ugly, but I am black. I don't dress urban at all, just preppy, and my voice sounds white. I never thought I looked scary.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why are some girls scared of me
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Who cares? It's just in your head. ...Trust me. Just worry about self improvement. Don't overanalyze what other girls think of you.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Maybe they're scared of trolls.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Couldn't have said it any better!Iceberg said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Gray The Prince
Master Don Juan
Cool story bro.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
I know it's not fair, but you being black could be the reason why they react to you that way.JPlaya said:
Many people are uncomfortable with the sight of a black man coming their way.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
Maybe cause your a creepy herb?
Being black could be your problem then again you might give off a scary vibe. Or the fact that you don't dress urban and you talk white is why they don't want to be with you. Because to be honest the reason why most white women or women general are attract to black dudes is because we have a bad boy image.
Well im black dude and have no problem getting white girls matter fact i have easier time white girl then i do black one. But i screw all races same color on the inside. You might want to trying smiling as you approach or being less preppy.
Well im black dude and have no problem getting white girls matter fact i have easier time white girl then i do black one. But i screw all races same color on the inside. You might want to trying smiling as you approach or being less preppy.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.