Some will be nervous around me or when they see me coming towards them they'll have this scared/nervous look on their face. I'm not ugly, but I am black. I don't dress urban at all, just preppy, and my voice sounds white. I never thought I looked scary.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Why are some girls scared of me
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Who cares? It's just in your head. ...Trust me. Just worry about self improvement. Don't overanalyze what other girls think of you.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Maybe they're scared of trolls.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Couldn't have said it any better!Iceberg said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Gray The Prince
Master Don Juan
Cool story bro.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
I know it's not fair, but you being black could be the reason why they react to you that way.JPlaya said:
Many people are uncomfortable with the sight of a black man coming their way.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
Maybe cause your a creepy herb?
Being black could be your problem then again you might give off a scary vibe. Or the fact that you don't dress urban and you talk white is why they don't want to be with you. Because to be honest the reason why most white women or women general are attract to black dudes is because we have a bad boy image.
Well im black dude and have no problem getting white girls matter fact i have easier time white girl then i do black one. But i screw all races same color on the inside. You might want to trying smiling as you approach or being less preppy.
Well im black dude and have no problem getting white girls matter fact i have easier time white girl then i do black one. But i screw all races same color on the inside. You might want to trying smiling as you approach or being less preppy.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.