Some will be nervous around me or when they see me coming towards them they'll have this scared/nervous look on their face. I'm not ugly, but I am black. I don't dress urban at all, just preppy, and my voice sounds white. I never thought I looked scary.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Why are some girls scared of me
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Who cares? It's just in your head. ...Trust me. Just worry about self improvement. Don't overanalyze what other girls think of you.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Maybe they're scared of trolls.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Couldn't have said it any better!Iceberg said:
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Gray The Prince
Master Don Juan
Cool story bro.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
I know it's not fair, but you being black could be the reason why they react to you that way.JPlaya said:
Many people are uncomfortable with the sight of a black man coming their way.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
Maybe cause your a creepy herb?
Being black could be your problem then again you might give off a scary vibe. Or the fact that you don't dress urban and you talk white is why they don't want to be with you. Because to be honest the reason why most white women or women general are attract to black dudes is because we have a bad boy image.
Well im black dude and have no problem getting white girls matter fact i have easier time white girl then i do black one. But i screw all races same color on the inside. You might want to trying smiling as you approach or being less preppy.
Well im black dude and have no problem getting white girls matter fact i have easier time white girl then i do black one. But i screw all races same color on the inside. You might want to trying smiling as you approach or being less preppy.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.