Some will be nervous around me or when they see me coming towards them they'll have this scared/nervous look on their face. I'm not ugly, but I am black. I don't dress urban at all, just preppy, and my voice sounds white. I never thought I looked scary.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why are some girls scared of me
- Thread starter JPlaya
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
PrettyBoyAJ
Master Don Juan
Who cares? It's just in your head. ...Trust me. Just worry about self improvement. Don't overanalyze what other girls think of you.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Maybe they're scared of trolls.
Nino-Tk
Master Don Juan
Couldn't have said it any better!Iceberg said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Gray The Prince
Master Don Juan
Cool story bro.
Maxtro
Master Don Juan
I know it's not fair, but you being black could be the reason why they react to you that way.JPlaya said:
Many people are uncomfortable with the sight of a black man coming their way.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
Maybe cause your a creepy herb?
Being black could be your problem then again you might give off a scary vibe. Or the fact that you don't dress urban and you talk white is why they don't want to be with you. Because to be honest the reason why most white women or women general are attract to black dudes is because we have a bad boy image.
Well im black dude and have no problem getting white girls matter fact i have easier time white girl then i do black one. But i screw all races same color on the inside. You might want to trying smiling as you approach or being less preppy.
Well im black dude and have no problem getting white girls matter fact i have easier time white girl then i do black one. But i screw all races same color on the inside. You might want to trying smiling as you approach or being less preppy.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.