"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Why am I only attracting women that smoke?

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I'm 51, widowed and a non-smoker, all the women that have been interested in a relationship with have been smokers. All the non-smokers have LJBFed me. I really can't figure this out, especially since I mostly hunt for women in churches. Are women smokers more sexual than non-smokers?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lol. i often find myself in the same smoke-filled boat (cough, gag!).
 

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I go to a non-dominational 'full gospel' church which has a live band for services. What's a rasta?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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rastafarian.

they believe smoking weed is a holy sacrement.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Unfortunately many women still see smoking as one of the most viable methods of weight control so they choose the lesser of two evils.
 

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I find it easer to talk to women in the smokers section of a club. If they offer a cigarette I just say, "sorry I don't smoke, I just hang out in the smokers section because I have a secret fetish to be with a women while shes smoking."
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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wolf116 said:
I find it easer to talk to women in the smokers section of a club. If they offer a cigarette I just say, "sorry I don't smoke, I just hang out in the smokers section because I have a secret fetish to be with a women while shes smoking."
Yeah, those little lines that they get around their mouths are so sexy.....
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Not to mention that rough, leathery skin, Francisco (especially for those who tan a lot, too).
 

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KarmaSutra said:
You need to reframe your point of view:

If she smokes, she swallows.
Same difference. I don't kiss a woman after she smokes and I don't kiss one after she swallows.
 
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