"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Why am I only attracting women that smoke?

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I'm 51, widowed and a non-smoker, all the women that have been interested in a relationship with have been smokers. All the non-smokers have LJBFed me. I really can't figure this out, especially since I mostly hunt for women in churches. Are women smokers more sexual than non-smokers?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lol. i often find myself in the same smoke-filled boat (cough, gag!).
 

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I go to a non-dominational 'full gospel' church which has a live band for services. What's a rasta?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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rastafarian.

they believe smoking weed is a holy sacrement.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Unfortunately many women still see smoking as one of the most viable methods of weight control so they choose the lesser of two evils.
 

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I find it easer to talk to women in the smokers section of a club. If they offer a cigarette I just say, "sorry I don't smoke, I just hang out in the smokers section because I have a secret fetish to be with a women while shes smoking."
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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wolf116 said:
I find it easer to talk to women in the smokers section of a club. If they offer a cigarette I just say, "sorry I don't smoke, I just hang out in the smokers section because I have a secret fetish to be with a women while shes smoking."
Yeah, those little lines that they get around their mouths are so sexy.....
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Not to mention that rough, leathery skin, Francisco (especially for those who tan a lot, too).
 

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KarmaSutra said:
You need to reframe your point of view:

If she smokes, she swallows.
Same difference. I don't kiss a woman after she smokes and I don't kiss one after she swallows.
 
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