"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Who turns 40 next month?

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I can't believe it seems like yesterday I was in high school thinking who am I going to take to prom and lurking on this forum just wanted to know who turns 40 next month
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I can't believe it seems like yesterday I was in high school thinking who am I going to take to prom and lurking on this forum just wanted to know who turns 40 next month
40 this month
 

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How time flies huh how long you been on here?
Only about a year…after spending my life so far being absolutely clueless about women I’m finally learning something :lol:

It’s hard to unlearn all the Hollywood/Disney/modern day simpery I’ve been exposed to all that time!
 

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Only about a year…after spending my life so far being absolutely clueless about women I’m finally learning something :lol:

It’s hard to unlearn all the Hollywood/Disney/modern day simpery I’ve been exposed to all that time!
Dm me on in miami
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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40 in March..I joined back in 2009. The good old days.

I was brought here by a hard breakup where I did all the wrong things to get her back.

I learned about No Contact and healed myself.

Got married in 2012.
Daughter born in 2016
Wife passed away earlier this year.
Right now a widowed single daddy of a 6 year old.
The amount of knowledge I gained from the veterans here is priceless.
 

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It’ll feel that way if you’re halfway sentient forever, I’ve got more than a decade on you and feel the same.

I can't believe it seems like yesterday I was in high school thinking who am I going to take to prom and lurking on this forum just wanted to know who turns 40 next month
 

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I turned 40 in March 2016. That year does strike me as a stand-out year as I had two relationships that were still recent enough releative to that time (ie that one in 2012, and brief marrige in 2014), so one of those sweet-spots where the positive memories and aspects of those relationships were still in my system, and far enough that the negative aspects, such as the cause of break-up/seperation were more faded out, yet not too distant compared to now where I would feel more 'incel' or how I was prior to that in the first place. The overall feeling and vibe of being 40 was great at that time, and was one of the last years I ever Kayaked, rode a mountain bike in challeging trails, etc..... It strikes me as one of the last nice youthful type of years from the pre-covid/last decade.
 

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Turning 40 in 3 months (March)
 

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I turned 40 in March 2016. That year does strike me as a stand-out year as I had two relationships that were still recent enough releative to that time (ie that one in 2012, and brief marrige in 2014), so one of those sweet-spots where the positive memories and aspects of those relationships were still in my system, and far enough that the negative aspects, such as the cause of break-up/seperation were more faded out, yet not too distant compared to now where I would feel more 'incel' or how I was prior to that in the first place. The overall feeling and vibe of being 40 was great at that time, and was one of the last years I ever Kayaked, rode a mountain bike in challeging trails, etc..... It strikes me as one of the last nice youthful type of years from the pre-covid/last decade.
Still keep in touch with them?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Still keep in touch with them?
No luck there. Both are gone and had nasty break up/seperations. The last contact, my ex wife and myself did wish each other a happy birthday back in March this year. They both probably have other guys or boyfriends/husbands anyway.
 

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Enjoy the next 3-4 years from age 40-44. If you haven't already started to feel "old", by 44, you will.
 

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Enjoy the next 3-4 years from age 40-44. If you haven't already started to feel "old", by 44, you will.
You also feel old based on what is going on around you too. In my case, the pandemic, lockdowns, my folks and in particular my mother being very old, no younger people in life or any woman, eating and not enough exercise, feeling drained most of the time because of my setup probably is making me feel old in contrast to my age. 46 is otherwise quote young still in modern times.
 

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People who are 39 years and 11 months are turning 40 next month.

Tomorrow's Eli thread: Who here uses their non-dominant hand to wipe their @ss with?
 

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Hi guys. Turned 40 in August this year. Life is good. Career did finally get a shape I wanted it to be in (there is always of course a room for improvement), getting to shape again, meeting and sleeping with women and overall I just enjoy my life. I wish you all 39s+ happy relationships, good health and many, many great nights spent with the most amazing women you can get, fellas! :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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