Who pays for the date?

[Josh Davidson]

Should the man pay for the date, or should both people pay their own way? Would paying for the date make me seem like a nice guy? I am only in it for the potential sex, in case that makes a difference.

 

[Georgepithyou]

Always split the bill, or you can pay for lunch and she pays for drinks or something. I don't believe a man should pay for everything unless his seeing an escort.

Women who demand men pay, are prostitutes in my eyes.

 

[Josh Davidson]

Always split the bill, or you can pay for lunch and she pays for drinks or something. I don't believe a man should pay for everything unless his seeing an escort.

Women who demand men pay, are prostitutes in my eyes.

Ok. Thank you!

 

[EyeBRollin]

Should the man pay for the date, or should both people pay their own way? Would paying for the date make me seem like a nice guy? I am only in it for the potential sex, in case that makes a difference.

The inviter pays. That is almost always the man especially in the beginning of courtship. Women who offer to split the bill are blowing smoke up your ass so they don’t owe you anything. Do NOT split the bill ever.

 

[Josh Davidson]

The inviter pays. That is almost always the man especially in the beginning of courtship. Women who offer to split the bill are blowing smoke up your ass so they don’t owe you anything. Do NOT split the bill ever.

Ok. I won't. Thanks for the advice!

 

[manfrombelow]

In the beginning of the courtship aka the very first 1-2 dates, the inviter pays. It's as simple as that.

You offered her the date, so you pay. And if the woman you're dating insists on splitting the bill on the 1st date, that's 100% bad omen. She's not sexually interested in you so she doesn't want to feel like she "owes" you anything because she's already knew there won't be a second date.

 

[Georgepithyou]

The inviter pays. That is almost always the man especially in the beginning of courtship. Women who offer to split the bill are blowing smoke up your ass so they don’t owe you anything. Do NOT split the bill ever.

Your both going on the date, so why does the inviter need to pay? You shouldn't make urself so submissive

 

[manfrombelow]

Your both going on the date, so why does the inviter need to pay?

Because common sense. And there's nothing "submissive" when the inviter pays for the 1st date.

 

[TheCharmingGuy]

Don’t split the bill unless the date went horribly and she wants to split it, in that case let her split it. But if the date went well then you should pay it all because you know there will be future dates in which you can split. But always pay on the first date unless it sucks.

 

[Velasco]

Walk up to cashier with her, order what you want ("and that's it") and pay for your own sht. THEN ask her if she wants something or nah as your paying with your card. So she cant hit you with that, "yeah get me a...", as if YOU'RE the cashier lol.

if she does, then step aside and let her get and pay for what she wants. Fellas,,, she was gonna pay for lunch/dinner anyway. Not like because she came out on a date with you, she is therefore spending unnecessary money just cuz you the one who initiated the date.

 

[TheCharmingGuy]

Good strat. Takes the pressure off the decision and you seem more of a gentleman without making it about gender roles.

 

[EyeBRollin]

if she does, then step aside and let her get and pay for what she wants. Fellas,,, she was gonna pay for lunch/dinner anyway. Not like because she came out on a date with you, she is therefore spending unnecessary money just cuz you the one who initiated the date.

No, this is being cheap. It is neither classy nor attractive. If you extend the invitation, you pay the whole bill. That’s a gentlemanly habit every man should adopt. Only let her pay if she offers to do something else after the date like get ice cream. Otherwise, it is proper to decline her wanting to pay for the date that you planned. Tell her she has to do the inviting if she wants to pay.

 

[manfrombelow]

No, this is being cheap. It is neither classy nor attractive. If you extend the invitation, you pay the whole bill. That’s a gentlemanly habit every man should adopt. Only let her pay if she offers to do something else after the date like get ice cream. Otherwise, it is proper to decline her wanting to pay for the date that you planned. Tell her she has to do the inviting if she wants to pay.

Exactly, if she offers to buy you movie tickets or ice cream after the date, then you're free to let her. But before that? Come on man, having a spine and having a frame doesn't mean being cheap.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

a) I wouldn't do expensive first dates
b) pay for the first date

 

[PRW63]

a) I wouldn't do expensive first dates
b) pay for the first date

Same here. Actually the first few dates. There is no splitting the bill until there is a real relationship and we are now doing more expensive things. I pay because I am inviting them on what I am taking them on, it symbolizes leadership, who is in control, and I am the one in control of what the date is and how much it costs. I'm ok if they just want to handle the "tip".

The women who fight to split the bill, don't get a second date. They are either:

1. a feminist
2. want to be in control, it feels like you are in a battle for control when they do that
3. don't trust me, so no point in seeing them again anyway
4. probably a few more things I could add here if I wanted to think it through more

 

[Steel_Neurons]

a) I wouldn't do expensive first dates
b) pay for the first date

Yup. Personally, don't do movies, meals, etc for first dates. I'd just go for a coffee/drink and pay for it all. I'd be looking for more than just sex, though, so maybe it's not a great strategy for that?