"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Who do you approach?

gm8384

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Hey everyone, I was wondering who you all approach to when you are out and about (shopping, school etc)...

1. Is it only girls that show possible interest (for example, EC)?

2. Or will you approach anyone anywhere (a girl sitting alone at a table that has not noticed you yet).

If you chose 2, please elaborate on how you might approach a situation like that. I know you could just ask if anyone is sitting there and then start talking, but that seems a little too forward for someone that you completely cold approached. On the other hand, sitting near by and then leaning over to ask a question/make a comment seems like a better idea to me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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MadaMadaDame

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Who do you approach?
Approach someone that interest you. Well.. you can approach someone of no interest just to widen your experience.
 

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Hey everyone, I was wondering who you all approach to when you are out and about (shopping, school etc)...

1. Is it only girls that show possible interest (for example, EC)?

2. Or will you approach anyone anywhere (a girl sitting alone at a table that has not noticed you yet).

If you chose 2, please elaborate on how you might approach a situation like that. I know you could just ask if anyone is sitting there and then start talking, but that seems a little too forward for someone that you completely cold approached. On the other hand, sitting near by and then leaning over to ask a question/make a comment seems like a better idea to me.
While Eye contact is a BIG plus, I pretty much approach any girl who I am intereted in. Today for example I approached a girl who was sitting alone outside. Sure it was obvious that I wanted to talk to her but who cares what she thinks. She introduced herself to me after minor chit chat.

Women respect guys who have balls.

But anyways, before I approach, I notice the environmental situation and try to think of something to talk about even if it's a tiny lame excuse for a conversation.
 

DJ_Dork

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I only approach girls that have strong eye contact with me.

Anything less and I disregard her until she initiates conversation or touching with me.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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