"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Who am i?

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Just been reading, Who am I by Steven Reiss & it just dawned on me that out of the 13 basic human desires he lists...one of the most important desires of mine isn't listed.....Fun.

The 13 basic human desires he lists are :-

Power
Independence
Curiosity
Acceptance
Order
Saving
Honor
Idealism
Social contact
Family
Status
Vengeance
Romance
Eating
Physical activity
Tranquility

I was just thinking...blimey, isn't everything so serious, what happened to actually enjoying life!

Is'nt fun one of your basic desires? Do you agree with me? Any input?


This book has taught me about personalities. It's a good read so far.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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"I think, therefore I am"....René Descartes
 

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I stopped trying to identify myself the day I realized words will never be adequate to fully describe the experience of me or others. It is what it is, doesn't nescessarily need a label. Often it's enough to just determine if it feels good or bad, at least is simpler and more effective leading to more good feelings. Though I could be biased by a desire for simplicity.

I think maybe fun is a superior attribute of the desires he described. Perhaps "feeling generally good" would be a better description associated with fulfilling those desires. Might even just be what the author desires with the assumption everyone desires every point on his list. Though I'd have to agree I find most of the points positive, except idealism. Who the fvck think that's a good idea?

If he based his book around "fun" it would be a very very short book with a page saying "have fun". To make a book he obviously has to go into detail to fill it with pages from cover to cover. "Fun" just isn't going to be enough.
 

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This book gives one an in depth look into themselves. I recommend it. I has gave me more of an idea who I am.

Regarding idealism. Some people have been on the edge...the only thing that saved them & the only thing that could make them feel like living is doing good for others.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Further on idealism. The four transcendentals were known as the True, the Good, the Beautiful, and Unity.

With the historical context in mind, our modern culture is like something drawn and quartered; we only concern ourselves with Truth today... to the detriment of the rest.
 
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