"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Who am i?

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Just been reading, Who am I by Steven Reiss & it just dawned on me that out of the 13 basic human desires he lists...one of the most important desires of mine isn't listed.....Fun.

The 13 basic human desires he lists are :-

Power
Independence
Curiosity
Acceptance
Order
Saving
Honor
Idealism
Social contact
Family
Status
Vengeance
Romance
Eating
Physical activity
Tranquility

I was just thinking...blimey, isn't everything so serious, what happened to actually enjoying life!

Is'nt fun one of your basic desires? Do you agree with me? Any input?


This book has taught me about personalities. It's a good read so far.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"I think, therefore I am"....René Descartes
 

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I stopped trying to identify myself the day I realized words will never be adequate to fully describe the experience of me or others. It is what it is, doesn't nescessarily need a label. Often it's enough to just determine if it feels good or bad, at least is simpler and more effective leading to more good feelings. Though I could be biased by a desire for simplicity.

I think maybe fun is a superior attribute of the desires he described. Perhaps "feeling generally good" would be a better description associated with fulfilling those desires. Might even just be what the author desires with the assumption everyone desires every point on his list. Though I'd have to agree I find most of the points positive, except idealism. Who the fvck think that's a good idea?

If he based his book around "fun" it would be a very very short book with a page saying "have fun". To make a book he obviously has to go into detail to fill it with pages from cover to cover. "Fun" just isn't going to be enough.
 

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This book gives one an in depth look into themselves. I recommend it. I has gave me more of an idea who I am.

Regarding idealism. Some people have been on the edge...the only thing that saved them & the only thing that could make them feel like living is doing good for others.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Further on idealism. The four transcendentals were known as the True, the Good, the Beautiful, and Unity.

With the historical context in mind, our modern culture is like something drawn and quartered; we only concern ourselves with Truth today... to the detriment of the rest.
 
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