"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Who am i?

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Just been reading, Who am I by Steven Reiss & it just dawned on me that out of the 13 basic human desires he lists...one of the most important desires of mine isn't listed.....Fun.

The 13 basic human desires he lists are :-

Power
Independence
Curiosity
Acceptance
Order
Saving
Honor
Idealism
Social contact
Family
Status
Vengeance
Romance
Eating
Physical activity
Tranquility

I was just thinking...blimey, isn't everything so serious, what happened to actually enjoying life!

Is'nt fun one of your basic desires? Do you agree with me? Any input?


This book has taught me about personalities. It's a good read so far.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"I think, therefore I am"....René Descartes
 

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I stopped trying to identify myself the day I realized words will never be adequate to fully describe the experience of me or others. It is what it is, doesn't nescessarily need a label. Often it's enough to just determine if it feels good or bad, at least is simpler and more effective leading to more good feelings. Though I could be biased by a desire for simplicity.

I think maybe fun is a superior attribute of the desires he described. Perhaps "feeling generally good" would be a better description associated with fulfilling those desires. Might even just be what the author desires with the assumption everyone desires every point on his list. Though I'd have to agree I find most of the points positive, except idealism. Who the fvck think that's a good idea?

If he based his book around "fun" it would be a very very short book with a page saying "have fun". To make a book he obviously has to go into detail to fill it with pages from cover to cover. "Fun" just isn't going to be enough.
 

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This book gives one an in depth look into themselves. I recommend it. I has gave me more of an idea who I am.

Regarding idealism. Some people have been on the edge...the only thing that saved them & the only thing that could make them feel like living is doing good for others.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Further on idealism. The four transcendentals were known as the True, the Good, the Beautiful, and Unity.

With the historical context in mind, our modern culture is like something drawn and quartered; we only concern ourselves with Truth today... to the detriment of the rest.
 
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