She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
LOL...I second that!Gray The Prince said:
No one said they were destined to fail. Like in any aspect of society, the minorities have to work harder than majorities do to be on the same level.jglide123 said:
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That's true to a degree, but this isn't the 20's bro. Anyone who wants success (business, dating, etc.) can achieve it. Will you encounter racist people in your life? Sure, but look at people in history like Booker T. Washington and W.E.B. DuBois. They achieved great prominence during highly racist times in America.SeymourCake said:
This message board is full of white guys who suck at dating. In fact, I'd say that the majority of guys here are white.SeymourCake said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I agree. If you put a white guy and any other race who share the same qualities in everything else in front of a random sample of 1000 women, jobs, etc..., the white guy will win out. It's not about being lazy and wanting the easy way, it's just a fact. Sorry but the world just isn't as color blind as you think it is.SeymourCake said:
I like your wisdom and think it carries value...but must you really act like you're in a court all the time? And saying case closed after you offer your opinion?nismo-4 said:
And this is probably the reason why he is a mod, till now he is only one that didnt start the " pre-ordered reaction" to the race topic..credit to you Atom, pity cannot give u repAtom Smasher said:
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
