Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
LOL...I second that!Gray The Prince said:
No one said they were destined to fail. Like in any aspect of society, the minorities have to work harder than majorities do to be on the same level.jglide123 said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That's true to a degree, but this isn't the 20's bro. Anyone who wants success (business, dating, etc.) can achieve it. Will you encounter racist people in your life? Sure, but look at people in history like Booker T. Washington and W.E.B. DuBois. They achieved great prominence during highly racist times in America.SeymourCake said:
This message board is full of white guys who suck at dating. In fact, I'd say that the majority of guys here are white.SeymourCake said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I agree. If you put a white guy and any other race who share the same qualities in everything else in front of a random sample of 1000 women, jobs, etc..., the white guy will win out. It's not about being lazy and wanting the easy way, it's just a fact. Sorry but the world just isn't as color blind as you think it is.SeymourCake said:
I like your wisdom and think it carries value...but must you really act like you're in a court all the time? And saying case closed after you offer your opinion?nismo-4 said:
And this is probably the reason why he is a mod, till now he is only one that didnt start the " pre-ordered reaction" to the race topic..credit to you Atom, pity cannot give u repAtom Smasher said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
