"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Which is harder to quit?

jobluek

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For a single guy: beating the meat, or smoking?

I do both way too often so am trying to quit both at once. On day 4 I've managed to keep my hands off myself and have cut back smoking to like 1-2 a day, but not cold turkey. I don't anticipate going further than a week on #1 since I am not a fan of nocturnal emissions, but once a week is pretty much an enormous feat for me.

On a side note, in the last 2 days I have asked out two different girls I've kind of had a thing for, so have two dates! Pretty crazy considering I haven't been on a "real" date in a long, long time. Not sure if it's a coincidence or not, but it'd be a pretty big coincidence.

I realize that going 4 days isn't really a big deal but if you have a habit ingrained for so long it's tough to break. But I digress.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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3countriesPlan

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I quit smoking three weeks ago.. just keep beating but don't smoke.. uh.. anyways some people can quit easier than others.. just take a look at old smokers around you and their wrinkled skin..
 

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Honestly for me its smoking...=(.
 

Jaxon

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4 days is a great start man, keep up the good work.

I've never smoked, but I'd guess that if you're addicted to it and have been doing it for a long time, that would be much harder to give up than jerkin' it.

I doubt you getting the dates is coincidence either. I feel "hungrier" so to speak and my confidence seems to be higher when I haven't tugged it for a while. I'm guessing it's probably having the same effect on you.
 

DJVladdy

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masturbation/porn are ALOT worse.

and P.S. this is embarassing, but if you ever take adderall or amphetamine, DO NOT go to a porn site! You wont close it until after 12 hours. Like its BAAAAD.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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theunflushables

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DJVladdy said:
masturbation/porn are ALOT worse.

and P.S. this is embarassing, but if you ever take adderall or amphetamine, DO NOT go to a porn site! You wont close it until after 12 hours. Like its BAAAAD.

That is so true. youTube is the same way.
 

Effington

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I'd say kill the smoking habit, but with [almost] everything in life, moderation is best. Don't cut yourself off, but playing with yourself a half dozen times a day probably isn't healthy either.
 
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