"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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jobluek

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For a single guy: beating the meat, or smoking?

I do both way too often so am trying to quit both at once. On day 4 I've managed to keep my hands off myself and have cut back smoking to like 1-2 a day, but not cold turkey. I don't anticipate going further than a week on #1 since I am not a fan of nocturnal emissions, but once a week is pretty much an enormous feat for me.

On a side note, in the last 2 days I have asked out two different girls I've kind of had a thing for, so have two dates! Pretty crazy considering I haven't been on a "real" date in a long, long time. Not sure if it's a coincidence or not, but it'd be a pretty big coincidence.

I realize that going 4 days isn't really a big deal but if you have a habit ingrained for so long it's tough to break. But I digress.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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3countriesPlan

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I quit smoking three weeks ago.. just keep beating but don't smoke.. uh.. anyways some people can quit easier than others.. just take a look at old smokers around you and their wrinkled skin..
 

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Honestly for me its smoking...=(.
 

Jaxon

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4 days is a great start man, keep up the good work.

I've never smoked, but I'd guess that if you're addicted to it and have been doing it for a long time, that would be much harder to give up than jerkin' it.

I doubt you getting the dates is coincidence either. I feel "hungrier" so to speak and my confidence seems to be higher when I haven't tugged it for a while. I'm guessing it's probably having the same effect on you.
 

DJVladdy

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masturbation/porn are ALOT worse.

and P.S. this is embarassing, but if you ever take adderall or amphetamine, DO NOT go to a porn site! You wont close it until after 12 hours. Like its BAAAAD.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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theunflushables

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DJVladdy said:
masturbation/porn are ALOT worse.

and P.S. this is embarassing, but if you ever take adderall or amphetamine, DO NOT go to a porn site! You wont close it until after 12 hours. Like its BAAAAD.

That is so true. youTube is the same way.
 

Effington

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I'd say kill the smoking habit, but with [almost] everything in life, moderation is best. Don't cut yourself off, but playing with yourself a half dozen times a day probably isn't healthy either.
 
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