"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Which is harder to quit?

jobluek

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For a single guy: beating the meat, or smoking?

I do both way too often so am trying to quit both at once. On day 4 I've managed to keep my hands off myself and have cut back smoking to like 1-2 a day, but not cold turkey. I don't anticipate going further than a week on #1 since I am not a fan of nocturnal emissions, but once a week is pretty much an enormous feat for me.

On a side note, in the last 2 days I have asked out two different girls I've kind of had a thing for, so have two dates! Pretty crazy considering I haven't been on a "real" date in a long, long time. Not sure if it's a coincidence or not, but it'd be a pretty big coincidence.

I realize that going 4 days isn't really a big deal but if you have a habit ingrained for so long it's tough to break. But I digress.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I quit smoking three weeks ago.. just keep beating but don't smoke.. uh.. anyways some people can quit easier than others.. just take a look at old smokers around you and their wrinkled skin..
 

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Honestly for me its smoking...=(.
 

Jaxon

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4 days is a great start man, keep up the good work.

I've never smoked, but I'd guess that if you're addicted to it and have been doing it for a long time, that would be much harder to give up than jerkin' it.

I doubt you getting the dates is coincidence either. I feel "hungrier" so to speak and my confidence seems to be higher when I haven't tugged it for a while. I'm guessing it's probably having the same effect on you.
 

DJVladdy

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masturbation/porn are ALOT worse.

and P.S. this is embarassing, but if you ever take adderall or amphetamine, DO NOT go to a porn site! You wont close it until after 12 hours. Like its BAAAAD.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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theunflushables

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DJVladdy said:
masturbation/porn are ALOT worse.

and P.S. this is embarassing, but if you ever take adderall or amphetamine, DO NOT go to a porn site! You wont close it until after 12 hours. Like its BAAAAD.

That is so true. youTube is the same way.
 

Effington

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I'd say kill the smoking habit, but with [almost] everything in life, moderation is best. Don't cut yourself off, but playing with yourself a half dozen times a day probably isn't healthy either.
 
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