"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Which is harder to quit?

jobluek

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For a single guy: beating the meat, or smoking?

I do both way too often so am trying to quit both at once. On day 4 I've managed to keep my hands off myself and have cut back smoking to like 1-2 a day, but not cold turkey. I don't anticipate going further than a week on #1 since I am not a fan of nocturnal emissions, but once a week is pretty much an enormous feat for me.

On a side note, in the last 2 days I have asked out two different girls I've kind of had a thing for, so have two dates! Pretty crazy considering I haven't been on a "real" date in a long, long time. Not sure if it's a coincidence or not, but it'd be a pretty big coincidence.

I realize that going 4 days isn't really a big deal but if you have a habit ingrained for so long it's tough to break. But I digress.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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3countriesPlan

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I quit smoking three weeks ago.. just keep beating but don't smoke.. uh.. anyways some people can quit easier than others.. just take a look at old smokers around you and their wrinkled skin..
 

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Honestly for me its smoking...=(.
 

Jaxon

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4 days is a great start man, keep up the good work.

I've never smoked, but I'd guess that if you're addicted to it and have been doing it for a long time, that would be much harder to give up than jerkin' it.

I doubt you getting the dates is coincidence either. I feel "hungrier" so to speak and my confidence seems to be higher when I haven't tugged it for a while. I'm guessing it's probably having the same effect on you.
 

DJVladdy

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masturbation/porn are ALOT worse.

and P.S. this is embarassing, but if you ever take adderall or amphetamine, DO NOT go to a porn site! You wont close it until after 12 hours. Like its BAAAAD.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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theunflushables

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DJVladdy said:
masturbation/porn are ALOT worse.

and P.S. this is embarassing, but if you ever take adderall or amphetamine, DO NOT go to a porn site! You wont close it until after 12 hours. Like its BAAAAD.

That is so true. youTube is the same way.
 

Effington

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I'd say kill the smoking habit, but with [almost] everything in life, moderation is best. Don't cut yourself off, but playing with yourself a half dozen times a day probably isn't healthy either.
 
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