eijikenhiyashi
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a girl who is okay looking and has high self-esteem and makes her own decisions. or a girl who is hot but wants me to help her make decisions all the time.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Which do you prefer?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Gangster Of Love
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Prefer for what? To bang or to date in a LTR?
eijikenhiyashi
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To date obviously.
The 2nd one. A real man is supposed to take charge in a relationship. The first chick would turn out to be too uppity and bossy. Hot chicks can sometimes get away with this, but the chick you described are the ones who usually sit at home Friday nights with a box of cookies and a Harlequin romance novel.
PRMoon
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It depends on what you're looking for. The first one works when you have a girl who has a decent job and has goals. In that case she's more of a partner then a subordinate. I prefer that case because it's a two way street. If I in turn am having problems with something, it's nice to know I can go to a thinking partner who can look over the issue with a fresh pair of eyes and give credible advice.
The latter takes more effort on your part because people who ask what to do all the time are more or less drones. A drone is good to order around and are generally only good at performing whatever task are lain out for them but without a guide are lost. I'm not too big of a fan of this because I encourage people to think. It's tricky enough making decisions in my complex life so the last thing I need is to make decisions for two people with no help. Some people can manage this though and prefer it that way.
The latter takes more effort on your part because people who ask what to do all the time are more or less drones. A drone is good to order around and are generally only good at performing whatever task are lain out for them but without a guide are lost. I'm not too big of a fan of this because I encourage people to think. It's tricky enough making decisions in my complex life so the last thing I need is to make decisions for two people with no help. Some people can manage this though and prefer it that way.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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eijikenhiyashi said:
I will not go lower than a 6 in looks and a 7 in intelligence.
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I take it you don't live in the U.S.?DonGorgon said:
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The first girl because she has ambitions, independent and won't depend on you for finacial relief.
The other girl needs to go home and let mommy and daddy finish raising her until she becomes woman enough to make her own decisions.
The other girl needs to go home and let mommy and daddy finish raising her until she becomes woman enough to make her own decisions.
Gangster Of Love
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Believe me, this might sound good on paper (computer screen), it gets very old and annoyin', very very fast.Birdem said:
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
DonGorgon
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I have been in the US for 10 years... after 10 in the UK and 10 in the caribbean...MooseGod said: