Ok I'm 25 and typically try to date girls 18-21. The thing is I only have a few friends and they are more of the nerdy type that doesn't go out. I know girls this age usually like to go to house parties or frat parties. Well I don't know anybody like that since I'm 25. I can't necessarily bring them back to my place because my parents live with me. So where do I take these girls? I feel like they will think it's lame to go on a traditional one on one date. What do you guys do?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Where to take 18-23 year old girls?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
SoSuave666
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The bedroom.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Well whether they think it's lame or not, you don't seem to have a choice.
Meet them at a non-college bar for a drink.
Go to the beach.
Park.
Shoot some pool.
Etc
Meet them at a non-college bar for a drink.
Go to the beach.
Park.
Shoot some pool.
Etc
rent a hotel room...adamw5963 said:I wish the bedroom
Good ideas..I always just have a hard time believing why they would want to go on a date with me when they could go to a party with a bunch of guys. I've been told to find girls that are more mature and don't like parties but I hate to limit myself to a certain type of girl.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Don't due Friday or Saturday night. Sunday - Thursdayadamw5963 said:Good ideas..I always just have a hard time believing why they would want to go on a date with me when they could go to a party with a bunch of guys. I've been told to find girls that are more mature and don't like parties but I hate to limit myself to a certain type of girl.
alphaace
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adamw5963 said:Good ideas..I always just have a hard time believing why they would want to go on a date with me when they could go to a party with a bunch of guys. I've been told to find girls that are more mature and don't like parties but I hate to limit myself to a certain type of girl.
You are already limiting yourself by your age range in which you are searching. If you wan't a girl in that age range you are going to be hard-pressed to find an attractive one that isnt into the party scene, but they are out there.
As for where to take them, since you live in a small Alabama town im assuming everyone goes fishing or mudding, their is a start. Try bowling or paint ball. The key is to find something you BOTH like, don't do something just for her and don't make her do someone she doesn't enjoy.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.