"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Where is she?

idiot_boyfriend

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Well, I committed myself to ask out this hot girl in my class that I've been checking out for about three years now. Yeah, it's a long time, but then again, I've been in my AFC shell for most of my life.

Anyway, I decided to do it last Wednesday or something after I thought of the idea. However, she hasn't shown up at school for the last couple of school days. I don't have her AIM screen name so I can't ask what's happening, and I'm not sure if I know her well enough to call.

I'm probably going to wait it out, but that leaves me with this question: would it make a difference if I called her, even though I don't know her that well?....and if I should, what should I say?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Just wait until you see her again. Girls like confidence. It's not very confident to ask her out over the phone. Until she comes back, play some game on some other hotties. Hell, you might even get lucky and get a yes from a hotty.
 

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Here's the thing: she is a hottie. In fact, to most guys on campus, she's the hottest girl. I can't do much better than that....

....but I see your point, and it does make a lot of sense. Thanks for the advice.

By the way, are you in Glendale or Phoenix?
 
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I reside in Glendale but I go to school in Phoenix. I also pretty much spend my free time in Phoenix (mall, park, firends houses, etc.).
 

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Wait until you see her again, and don't put her on a pedestal cuz of her looks. Consider all your options - for all you know she, if she's a 9.5, could be a nutjob, really mean, or a slut, while that 8 over somewhere else in the class could be an amazing and inspiring girl.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by DO NOT ENTER my butt
I reside in Glendale but I go to school in Phoenix. I also pretty much spend my free time in Phoenix (mall, park, firends houses, etc.).
Glendale, California?
 
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