"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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idiot_boyfriend

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Well, I committed myself to ask out this hot girl in my class that I've been checking out for about three years now. Yeah, it's a long time, but then again, I've been in my AFC shell for most of my life.

Anyway, I decided to do it last Wednesday or something after I thought of the idea. However, she hasn't shown up at school for the last couple of school days. I don't have her AIM screen name so I can't ask what's happening, and I'm not sure if I know her well enough to call.

I'm probably going to wait it out, but that leaves me with this question: would it make a difference if I called her, even though I don't know her that well?....and if I should, what should I say?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just wait until you see her again. Girls like confidence. It's not very confident to ask her out over the phone. Until she comes back, play some game on some other hotties. Hell, you might even get lucky and get a yes from a hotty.
 

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Here's the thing: she is a hottie. In fact, to most guys on campus, she's the hottest girl. I can't do much better than that....

....but I see your point, and it does make a lot of sense. Thanks for the advice.

By the way, are you in Glendale or Phoenix?
 
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I reside in Glendale but I go to school in Phoenix. I also pretty much spend my free time in Phoenix (mall, park, firends houses, etc.).
 

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Wait until you see her again, and don't put her on a pedestal cuz of her looks. Consider all your options - for all you know she, if she's a 9.5, could be a nutjob, really mean, or a slut, while that 8 over somewhere else in the class could be an amazing and inspiring girl.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by DO NOT ENTER my butt
I reside in Glendale but I go to school in Phoenix. I also pretty much spend my free time in Phoenix (mall, park, firends houses, etc.).
Glendale, California?
 
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