"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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disfunktional

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Hey,

Say you date a girl a couple of times, fcuk a few times but you know you aren't interested in a relationship with this girl, but you can easily get sex out of her. Do you just keep getting sex until she flakes, or do you give her the LJBF? Where is the point that you feel you are just using her, or do you never feel that at all?

Interested to hear your thoughts.

Peace.

df
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Phyzzle

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Keep going until she asks, "so . . . are we together? Have you stopped seeing other people?" When that happens DONT LIE TO KEEP THE SEX GOING. Just say no.

Until then, sex for the next 10 years doesn't mean you're promising a relaitonship. Not in our culture.

What, do you think this woman hasn ever dated (or continued to date) a man she has no serious interest in? Never? Yeah, right, of course she has.
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NewMan

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I agree.

You keep fvcking her until one of a few things happen.

1) You get tired.

2) she gets tired

3) she gives you pressure on a 'relationship' level.


When she starts inviting you out with her friends, or to visit her family - or gives you the 3rd degree "pillow talk" - you know it's time to jump ship. Don't get roped into the relationship.
 

Latinoman

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NewMan said:
I agree.

You keep fvcking her until one of a few things happen.

1) You get tired.

2) she gets tired

3) she gives you pressure on a 'relationship' level.


When she starts inviting you out with her friends, or to visit her family - or gives you the 3rd degree "pillow talk" - you know it's time to jump ship. Don't get roped into the relationship.
Exactly.

I mean...he is not using her, UNLESS he made her believe they are in a "relationship" (they are not).
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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