"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Where do you stop?

disfunktional

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Hey,

Say you date a girl a couple of times, fcuk a few times but you know you aren't interested in a relationship with this girl, but you can easily get sex out of her. Do you just keep getting sex until she flakes, or do you give her the LJBF? Where is the point that you feel you are just using her, or do you never feel that at all?

Interested to hear your thoughts.

Peace.

df
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Phyzzle

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Keep going until she asks, "so . . . are we together? Have you stopped seeing other people?" When that happens DONT LIE TO KEEP THE SEX GOING. Just say no.

Until then, sex for the next 10 years doesn't mean you're promising a relaitonship. Not in our culture.

What, do you think this woman hasn ever dated (or continued to date) a man she has no serious interest in? Never? Yeah, right, of course she has.
~Phyzzle
 

NewMan

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I agree.

You keep fvcking her until one of a few things happen.

1) You get tired.

2) she gets tired

3) she gives you pressure on a 'relationship' level.


When she starts inviting you out with her friends, or to visit her family - or gives you the 3rd degree "pillow talk" - you know it's time to jump ship. Don't get roped into the relationship.
 

Latinoman

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NewMan said:
I agree.

You keep fvcking her until one of a few things happen.

1) You get tired.

2) she gets tired

3) she gives you pressure on a 'relationship' level.


When she starts inviting you out with her friends, or to visit her family - or gives you the 3rd degree "pillow talk" - you know it's time to jump ship. Don't get roped into the relationship.
Exactly.

I mean...he is not using her, UNLESS he made her believe they are in a "relationship" (they are not).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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