"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Where do you stop?

disfunktional

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Hey,

Say you date a girl a couple of times, fcuk a few times but you know you aren't interested in a relationship with this girl, but you can easily get sex out of her. Do you just keep getting sex until she flakes, or do you give her the LJBF? Where is the point that you feel you are just using her, or do you never feel that at all?

Interested to hear your thoughts.

Peace.

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Phyzzle

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Keep going until she asks, "so . . . are we together? Have you stopped seeing other people?" When that happens DONT LIE TO KEEP THE SEX GOING. Just say no.

Until then, sex for the next 10 years doesn't mean you're promising a relaitonship. Not in our culture.

What, do you think this woman hasn ever dated (or continued to date) a man she has no serious interest in? Never? Yeah, right, of course she has.
~Phyzzle
 

NewMan

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I agree.

You keep fvcking her until one of a few things happen.

1) You get tired.

2) she gets tired

3) she gives you pressure on a 'relationship' level.


When she starts inviting you out with her friends, or to visit her family - or gives you the 3rd degree "pillow talk" - you know it's time to jump ship. Don't get roped into the relationship.
 

Latinoman

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NewMan said:
I agree.

You keep fvcking her until one of a few things happen.

1) You get tired.

2) she gets tired

3) she gives you pressure on a 'relationship' level.


When she starts inviting you out with her friends, or to visit her family - or gives you the 3rd degree "pillow talk" - you know it's time to jump ship. Don't get roped into the relationship.
Exactly.

I mean...he is not using her, UNLESS he made her believe they are in a "relationship" (they are not).
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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