SharinganUser
Master Don Juan
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Where can I find a woman with low self esteem? How can I spot one that is lonely, a little desperate and has a low self-esteem?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
WRX_is_like_SEX said:Dude . . . .
Yr missing the point I'm making . . .You must have pretty low self esteem yrself to want to hook up with a girl that is such . . .Or are one of those who finds intelligent and confident women quite intimidating???:nono:
and you win the american feminist b.s. award for 2006. 98% of the people on this planet have major self-esteem issues. 99% of females have really major self-esteem issues. in america girls just put up huge walls. they have been told that aggressive confident girls are sexy. this is a load of crap. a normal male wants a girl that he can protect and take care of. he wants to feel needed. he wants clingy. he wants needy. too bad for you guys that america/western europe is telling girls that such behavior is wrong.WRX_is_like_SEX said:Dude . . . .
Yr missing the point I'm making . . .You must have pretty low self esteem yrself to want to hook up with a girl that is such . . .Or are one of those who finds intelligent and confident women quite intimidating???:nono:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
THANK YOU. Too many dumb kids think just because a girl appears confident or that they are beautiful that they must have the best lives as confident people. Unfortunately, that is not the case considering most beautiful girls go through life seeking continuous validation with seemingly no end in their pursuit = The most depressed people imaginable. Of course they are perfect actors and dont show it. The true winners and happy people in life are those who understand that life is really, truly too short to even think about such pithy things; go out their take risks, and enjoy it before you die and the neighborhood dog pisses on your grave for you are truly not that important to feel insecure and upset over things.sparky0000 said:and you win the american feminist b.s. award for 2006. 98% of the people on this planet have major self-esteem issues. 99% of females have really major self-esteem issues. in america girls just put up huge walls. they have been told that aggressive confident girls are sexy. this is a load of crap. a normal male wants a girl that he can protect and take care of. he wants to feel needed. he wants clingy. he wants needy. too bad for you guys that america/western europe is telling girls that such behavior is wrong.
most of you guys have no clue as to how girls feel. practically every single normal girl on this planet feels all alone. almost all of them feel like there isn't a soul on earth who they connect with. once again, the american chubster just pretends that this isn't the case. behind the layers of fat and loudness are girls that just want to be loved for who they are. as long as they don't look for me to be doing the loving i am cool with it :nervous:
the more intelligent you are, the more likely you are to be screwed up in the brain. the world is harsh and ugly. it is filled with pain and suffering. intelligent people see this. simple minded people just want a new playstation 3.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
sparky0000 said:and you win the american feminist b.s. award for 2006. 98% of the people on this planet have major self-esteem issues. 99% of females have really major self-esteem issues. in america girls just put up huge walls. they have been told that aggressive confident girls are sexy. this is a load of crap. a normal male wants a girl that he can protect and take care of. he wants to feel needed. he wants clingy. he wants needy. too bad for you guys that america/western europe is telling girls that such behavior is wrong.
most of you guys have no clue as to how girls feel. practically every single normal girl on this planet feels all alone. almost all of them feel like there isn't a soul on earth who they connect with. once again, the american chubster just pretends that this isn't the case. behind the layers of fat and loudness are girls that just want to be loved for who they are. as long as they don't look for me to be doing the loving i am cool with it :nervous:
the more intelligent you are, the more likely you are to be screwed up in the brain. the world is harsh and ugly. it is filled with pain and suffering. intelligent people see this. simple minded people just want a new playstation 3.
WRX_is_like_SEX said:Now tell me Sparky . . .Are you not a bit of a d*ck head???
. . .Sure . . .There are a lot of girls with self esteem issues, followed by some of your b-rate psychology . . .But more to the point . . .I like to aim hi, because I consider myself as having high value, rather than consciously going for low esteemed loser, i have 10 tonns of luggage up their girls . . .
n.b . . .I am not American..![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.