SharinganUser
Master Don Juan
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Where can I find a woman with low self esteem? How can I spot one that is lonely, a little desperate and has a low self-esteem?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
WRX_is_like_SEX said:Dude . . . .
Yr missing the point I'm making . . .You must have pretty low self esteem yrself to want to hook up with a girl that is such . . .Or are one of those who finds intelligent and confident women quite intimidating???:nono:
and you win the american feminist b.s. award for 2006. 98% of the people on this planet have major self-esteem issues. 99% of females have really major self-esteem issues. in america girls just put up huge walls. they have been told that aggressive confident girls are sexy. this is a load of crap. a normal male wants a girl that he can protect and take care of. he wants to feel needed. he wants clingy. he wants needy. too bad for you guys that america/western europe is telling girls that such behavior is wrong.WRX_is_like_SEX said:Dude . . . .
Yr missing the point I'm making . . .You must have pretty low self esteem yrself to want to hook up with a girl that is such . . .Or are one of those who finds intelligent and confident women quite intimidating???:nono:
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
THANK YOU. Too many dumb kids think just because a girl appears confident or that they are beautiful that they must have the best lives as confident people. Unfortunately, that is not the case considering most beautiful girls go through life seeking continuous validation with seemingly no end in their pursuit = The most depressed people imaginable. Of course they are perfect actors and dont show it. The true winners and happy people in life are those who understand that life is really, truly too short to even think about such pithy things; go out their take risks, and enjoy it before you die and the neighborhood dog pisses on your grave for you are truly not that important to feel insecure and upset over things.sparky0000 said:and you win the american feminist b.s. award for 2006. 98% of the people on this planet have major self-esteem issues. 99% of females have really major self-esteem issues. in america girls just put up huge walls. they have been told that aggressive confident girls are sexy. this is a load of crap. a normal male wants a girl that he can protect and take care of. he wants to feel needed. he wants clingy. he wants needy. too bad for you guys that america/western europe is telling girls that such behavior is wrong.
most of you guys have no clue as to how girls feel. practically every single normal girl on this planet feels all alone. almost all of them feel like there isn't a soul on earth who they connect with. once again, the american chubster just pretends that this isn't the case. behind the layers of fat and loudness are girls that just want to be loved for who they are. as long as they don't look for me to be doing the loving i am cool with it :nervous:
the more intelligent you are, the more likely you are to be screwed up in the brain. the world is harsh and ugly. it is filled with pain and suffering. intelligent people see this. simple minded people just want a new playstation 3.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
sparky0000 said:and you win the american feminist b.s. award for 2006. 98% of the people on this planet have major self-esteem issues. 99% of females have really major self-esteem issues. in america girls just put up huge walls. they have been told that aggressive confident girls are sexy. this is a load of crap. a normal male wants a girl that he can protect and take care of. he wants to feel needed. he wants clingy. he wants needy. too bad for you guys that america/western europe is telling girls that such behavior is wrong.
most of you guys have no clue as to how girls feel. practically every single normal girl on this planet feels all alone. almost all of them feel like there isn't a soul on earth who they connect with. once again, the american chubster just pretends that this isn't the case. behind the layers of fat and loudness are girls that just want to be loved for who they are. as long as they don't look for me to be doing the loving i am cool with it :nervous:
the more intelligent you are, the more likely you are to be screwed up in the brain. the world is harsh and ugly. it is filled with pain and suffering. intelligent people see this. simple minded people just want a new playstation 3.
WRX_is_like_SEX said:Now tell me Sparky . . .Are you not a bit of a d*ck head???
. . .Sure . . .There are a lot of girls with self esteem issues, followed by some of your b-rate psychology . . .But more to the point . . .I like to aim hi, because I consider myself as having high value, rather than consciously going for low esteemed loser, i have 10 tonns of luggage up their girls . . .
n.b . . .I am not American..![]()
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.