SharinganUser
Master Don Juan
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Where can I find a woman with low self esteem? How can I spot one that is lonely, a little desperate and has a low self-esteem?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
WRX_is_like_SEX said:Dude . . . .
Yr missing the point I'm making . . .You must have pretty low self esteem yrself to want to hook up with a girl that is such . . .Or are one of those who finds intelligent and confident women quite intimidating???:nono:
and you win the american feminist b.s. award for 2006. 98% of the people on this planet have major self-esteem issues. 99% of females have really major self-esteem issues. in america girls just put up huge walls. they have been told that aggressive confident girls are sexy. this is a load of crap. a normal male wants a girl that he can protect and take care of. he wants to feel needed. he wants clingy. he wants needy. too bad for you guys that america/western europe is telling girls that such behavior is wrong.WRX_is_like_SEX said:Dude . . . .
Yr missing the point I'm making . . .You must have pretty low self esteem yrself to want to hook up with a girl that is such . . .Or are one of those who finds intelligent and confident women quite intimidating???:nono:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
THANK YOU. Too many dumb kids think just because a girl appears confident or that they are beautiful that they must have the best lives as confident people. Unfortunately, that is not the case considering most beautiful girls go through life seeking continuous validation with seemingly no end in their pursuit = The most depressed people imaginable. Of course they are perfect actors and dont show it. The true winners and happy people in life are those who understand that life is really, truly too short to even think about such pithy things; go out their take risks, and enjoy it before you die and the neighborhood dog pisses on your grave for you are truly not that important to feel insecure and upset over things.sparky0000 said:and you win the american feminist b.s. award for 2006. 98% of the people on this planet have major self-esteem issues. 99% of females have really major self-esteem issues. in america girls just put up huge walls. they have been told that aggressive confident girls are sexy. this is a load of crap. a normal male wants a girl that he can protect and take care of. he wants to feel needed. he wants clingy. he wants needy. too bad for you guys that america/western europe is telling girls that such behavior is wrong.
most of you guys have no clue as to how girls feel. practically every single normal girl on this planet feels all alone. almost all of them feel like there isn't a soul on earth who they connect with. once again, the american chubster just pretends that this isn't the case. behind the layers of fat and loudness are girls that just want to be loved for who they are. as long as they don't look for me to be doing the loving i am cool with it :nervous:
the more intelligent you are, the more likely you are to be screwed up in the brain. the world is harsh and ugly. it is filled with pain and suffering. intelligent people see this. simple minded people just want a new playstation 3.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
sparky0000 said:and you win the american feminist b.s. award for 2006. 98% of the people on this planet have major self-esteem issues. 99% of females have really major self-esteem issues. in america girls just put up huge walls. they have been told that aggressive confident girls are sexy. this is a load of crap. a normal male wants a girl that he can protect and take care of. he wants to feel needed. he wants clingy. he wants needy. too bad for you guys that america/western europe is telling girls that such behavior is wrong.
most of you guys have no clue as to how girls feel. practically every single normal girl on this planet feels all alone. almost all of them feel like there isn't a soul on earth who they connect with. once again, the american chubster just pretends that this isn't the case. behind the layers of fat and loudness are girls that just want to be loved for who they are. as long as they don't look for me to be doing the loving i am cool with it :nervous:
the more intelligent you are, the more likely you are to be screwed up in the brain. the world is harsh and ugly. it is filled with pain and suffering. intelligent people see this. simple minded people just want a new playstation 3.
WRX_is_like_SEX said:Now tell me Sparky . . .Are you not a bit of a d*ck head???
. . .Sure . . .There are a lot of girls with self esteem issues, followed by some of your b-rate psychology . . .But more to the point . . .I like to aim hi, because I consider myself as having high value, rather than consciously going for low esteemed loser, i have 10 tonns of luggage up their girls . . .
n.b . . .I am not American..![]()
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.