"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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iMat

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I've decided to stop DJing.

Sure there are a lot of attractive girls in high school, but why would I care?

Most are mediocre. The hot ones are ususally taken, and everybody's a confused, insecure mess, with the average intellect of _____________ (you think of simile there).

So, when does it all break over? When does everybody just calm down, the rivalries stop, and everything just gets more suave?

--iMat
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Djing isn't a "technique" you can just "stop". Unless you mean giving up girls.
 

Kidd

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DJ is supposed to be a mindset. You can never quit it.
 

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you haven't decided to stop, because you never got started.

you'll be back here in a week after you realize what a pathetic excuse this post really is. you're just too lazy to put forth the effort into getting girls.
 

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<insert cliche statement about how DJing is a way of life an not just about getting girls>


Or rather, let's be realistic. To paraphrase El-P:

"You won't DJ because you can't DJ. It's not a choice, despite what you might tell your boys."
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I think there is a misunderstanding here.

By the meaning of "stop DJing", I don't mean erase my whole mindset and turn the clock back. I simply meant to raise my standards, and wait.

--iMat
 

Porky

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stop making excuses. we don't want to hear them.
 

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Originally posted by iMat
I've decided to stop DJing.

Sure there are a lot of attractive girls in high school, but why would I care?

Most are mediocre. The hot ones are ususally taken, and everybody's a confused, insecure mess, with the average intellect of _____________ (you think of simile there).

So, when does it all break over? When does everybody just calm down, the rivalries stop, and everything just gets more suave?

--iMat
Excuses. Excuses because you probably realize that you A)Will need to work to be a DJ or B) Are afraid of it.
 

LikRetsam

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I think he's tired of shyt girls. Anyways, listen to porky.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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