"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've decided to stop DJing.

Sure there are a lot of attractive girls in high school, but why would I care?

Most are mediocre. The hot ones are ususally taken, and everybody's a confused, insecure mess, with the average intellect of _____________ (you think of simile there).

So, when does it all break over? When does everybody just calm down, the rivalries stop, and everything just gets more suave?

--iMat
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Djing isn't a "technique" you can just "stop". Unless you mean giving up girls.
 

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DJ is supposed to be a mindset. You can never quit it.
 

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you haven't decided to stop, because you never got started.

you'll be back here in a week after you realize what a pathetic excuse this post really is. you're just too lazy to put forth the effort into getting girls.
 

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<insert cliche statement about how DJing is a way of life an not just about getting girls>


Or rather, let's be realistic. To paraphrase El-P:

"You won't DJ because you can't DJ. It's not a choice, despite what you might tell your boys."
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think there is a misunderstanding here.

By the meaning of "stop DJing", I don't mean erase my whole mindset and turn the clock back. I simply meant to raise my standards, and wait.

--iMat
 

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stop making excuses. we don't want to hear them.
 

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Originally posted by iMat
I've decided to stop DJing.

Sure there are a lot of attractive girls in high school, but why would I care?

Most are mediocre. The hot ones are ususally taken, and everybody's a confused, insecure mess, with the average intellect of _____________ (you think of simile there).

So, when does it all break over? When does everybody just calm down, the rivalries stop, and everything just gets more suave?

--iMat
Excuses. Excuses because you probably realize that you A)Will need to work to be a DJ or B) Are afraid of it.
 

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I think he's tired of shyt girls. Anyways, listen to porky.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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