escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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Do you have the experience fkin a girl and don't enjoy it anymore? I recently have this experience and I don't know what to do.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah, happened to me once, so I sent her home like a douchebag.Do you have the experience fkin a girl and don't enjoy it anymore? I recently have this experience and I don't know what to do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This or Next.Fvck her less frequently. Doing anything too much will kill the enjoyment of it. Alternatively you can do it differently and try out some fantasies, although at some point you'll probably exhaust your creativity so again do it less frequently.
Far and few between my friend. It' becoming rarer and rarer. My lady tried to cook something for us the other day and started a mini-fire. I think one or two of all the ladies I've ever dated knew how to cook something edible. Sad. I enjoy cooking, so it's cool. She cleans everything up, which is a plus. I hate the clean-up.Find a girl who can cook and clean (easier said than done) and who actually wants to do stuff not just sit around and gossip about netflix and the latest IG influencer.
Sorry you're going through that man. I enjoy cooking too but my girlfriend hates my cooking, luckily she is pretty bomb at cooking. Legit made a whole thanksgiving dinner the day before thanksgiving for all our friends.Far and few between my friend. It' becoming rarer and rarer. My lady tried to cook something for us the other day and started a mini-fire. I think one or two of all the ladies I've ever dated knew how to cook something edible. Sad. I enjoy cooking, so it's cool. She cleans everything up, which is a plus. I hate the clean-up.
Yea, it's one of the biggest issues I find. Even the current one, doesn't know how to cook, but cleans up well. She said she'll learn, we'll see. At least the sex is good and never turned down. She's trying, so that's a plus. But if you can find one like that, and she's sane, you may have found a needle in a haystack. Congrats dude.Sorry you're going through that man. I enjoy cooking too but my girlfriend hates my cooking, luckily she is pretty bomb at cooking. Legit made a whole thanksgiving dinner the day before thanksgiving for all our friends.
Every girl I have on snapchat who's younger than me (21-24) seems like they legit eat out every, ****ing , day. It's insane. Not only is that expensive, they just don't develop the skills for cooking.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
No one is sane. Years of school and being around different types of people have taught me that. The people who you believe to be the best and brightest have their demons. It isn't about hiding them, it's how the person deals with them. I.e. If a girl is insane, but she transfers that energy into working out to look good that is positive. If she transfers that energy into binge drinking, doing drugs, and not giving a fvck, then she needs to grow up, but probably wont.Yea, it's one of the biggest issues I find. Even the current one, doesn't know how to cook, but cleans up well. She said she'll learn, we'll see. At least the sex is good and never turned down. She's trying, so that's a plus. But if you can find one like that, and she's sane, you may have found a needle in a haystack. Congrats dude.
No doubt, it's also about give and take. I've dated 9's and 10's, even attempted a relationship (see the posts from last October 2018 - Jan 2019); it's not worth the headache they give. So, I go with a lady down a notch or two. It's more steady, but, again, there are gives and takes. Amazing sex, amazing things in common and enjoyable company. However, in terms of looks, doesn't hold a candle to my last to ladies. She can, but it will take time. I will admit, she's trying really hard to fit the mold I setup too. It's baffling too... That she's trying so hard. I admire that, and I've not seen a lady do all of this for my approval in years. No, I didn't suggest it, nor am I pushing her towards it. She just knows this is the type of lady I want. I also, sometimes think, my mind is looking for issues just to disqualify her. She also said she loved me a few weeks ago, I said, I appreciate you too, but not there yet. So, there you go. This time, it's probably me. I've been thru so many ladies over the years, perhaps now I am jaded a bit. It happens I guess.No one is sane. Years of school and being around different types of people have taught me that. The people who you believe to be the best and brightest have their demons. It isn't about hiding them, it's how the person deals with them. I.e. If a girl is insane, but she transfers that energy into working out to look good that is positive. If she transfers that energy into binge drinking, doing drugs, and not giving a fvck, then she needs to grow up, but probably wont.
@stormrider what is "equality sex?"