"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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When you are being aggressive, do they laugh?

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Does it happen to you?

Often, when I call a chick and spend time talking with her for like 30 seconds, just to set up a date, I use commanding voice "Be at bla bla at 10, don't be late" and just practically tell them what to do.

Well, they LAUGH. They do exactly as I say, but often even in person when I command them they get SHOCKED and then start laughing.

Is this normal? Or are they making fun of me being aggressive? They always end up playing along with "yes, captain!" or "yes, sir!" but still laugh...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Babnik said:
Does it happen to you?

Often, when I call a chick and spend time talking with her for like 30 seconds, just to set up a date, I use commanding voice "Be at bla bla at 10, don't be late" and just practically tell them what to do.

Well, they LAUGH. They do exactly as I say, but often even in person when I command them they get SHOCKED and then start laughing.

Is this normal? Or are they making fun of me being aggressive? They always end up playing along with "yes, captain!" or "yes, sir!" but still laugh...
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Babnik how old are you?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What matters more: how long have you been in this country? There is something in your voice and demeanor that people find aggressive, and it's probably cultural.

But hey, if they're laughing, that is actually a good thing. . . .
 
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No, I am saying I try to be this way. I don't tend to ask a girl, I tend to tell her like "Come with me, do this, invite me, do this" and they like it, but they also laugh at it. Its just I can't figure out whether they laugh because they like it or because they are not taking me seriously. Regardless, they still do what I tell them to!
 
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I can very much relate to this behaviour and I think I know EXACTLY where they're coming from. When you command people to do things you're trying to take the role of dominance. Most people don't like being dominated so easily, because it's demeaning. If they were to follow your command without complaint it's being submissive, if they resist your command they feel like a douchebag.

Laughing takes the tesnion away from the situation. They still do what you tell you to do but they laugh to verify that they are not intimidated by you and you are not their master.
 
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Babnick how old are you???????? Your threads are absolutely worthless. Why don't u spend time reading the information on sosuave.com instead of starting these garbage threads.
 
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