"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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When you are being aggressive, do they laugh?

Babnik

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Does it happen to you?

Often, when I call a chick and spend time talking with her for like 30 seconds, just to set up a date, I use commanding voice "Be at bla bla at 10, don't be late" and just practically tell them what to do.

Well, they LAUGH. They do exactly as I say, but often even in person when I command them they get SHOCKED and then start laughing.

Is this normal? Or are they making fun of me being aggressive? They always end up playing along with "yes, captain!" or "yes, sir!" but still laugh...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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jonwon

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Babnik said:
Does it happen to you?

Often, when I call a chick and spend time talking with her for like 30 seconds, just to set up a date, I use commanding voice "Be at bla bla at 10, don't be late" and just practically tell them what to do.

Well, they LAUGH. They do exactly as I say, but often even in person when I command them they get SHOCKED and then start laughing.

Is this normal? Or are they making fun of me being aggressive? They always end up playing along with "yes, captain!" or "yes, sir!" but still laugh...
Babnik how old are you?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Phyzzle

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What matters more: how long have you been in this country? There is something in your voice and demeanor that people find aggressive, and it's probably cultural.

But hey, if they're laughing, that is actually a good thing. . . .
 

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No, I am saying I try to be this way. I don't tend to ask a girl, I tend to tell her like "Come with me, do this, invite me, do this" and they like it, but they also laugh at it. Its just I can't figure out whether they laugh because they like it or because they are not taking me seriously. Regardless, they still do what I tell them to!
 

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I can very much relate to this behaviour and I think I know EXACTLY where they're coming from. When you command people to do things you're trying to take the role of dominance. Most people don't like being dominated so easily, because it's demeaning. If they were to follow your command without complaint it's being submissive, if they resist your command they feel like a douchebag.

Laughing takes the tesnion away from the situation. They still do what you tell you to do but they laugh to verify that they are not intimidated by you and you are not their master.
 

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Babnick how old are you???????? Your threads are absolutely worthless. Why don't u spend time reading the information on sosuave.com instead of starting these garbage threads.
 
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