"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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When you are being aggressive, do they laugh?

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Does it happen to you?

Often, when I call a chick and spend time talking with her for like 30 seconds, just to set up a date, I use commanding voice "Be at bla bla at 10, don't be late" and just practically tell them what to do.

Well, they LAUGH. They do exactly as I say, but often even in person when I command them they get SHOCKED and then start laughing.

Is this normal? Or are they making fun of me being aggressive? They always end up playing along with "yes, captain!" or "yes, sir!" but still laugh...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Babnik said:
Does it happen to you?

Often, when I call a chick and spend time talking with her for like 30 seconds, just to set up a date, I use commanding voice "Be at bla bla at 10, don't be late" and just practically tell them what to do.

Well, they LAUGH. They do exactly as I say, but often even in person when I command them they get SHOCKED and then start laughing.

Is this normal? Or are they making fun of me being aggressive? They always end up playing along with "yes, captain!" or "yes, sir!" but still laugh...
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Babnik how old are you?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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What matters more: how long have you been in this country? There is something in your voice and demeanor that people find aggressive, and it's probably cultural.

But hey, if they're laughing, that is actually a good thing. . . .
 
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No, I am saying I try to be this way. I don't tend to ask a girl, I tend to tell her like "Come with me, do this, invite me, do this" and they like it, but they also laugh at it. Its just I can't figure out whether they laugh because they like it or because they are not taking me seriously. Regardless, they still do what I tell them to!
 
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I can very much relate to this behaviour and I think I know EXACTLY where they're coming from. When you command people to do things you're trying to take the role of dominance. Most people don't like being dominated so easily, because it's demeaning. If they were to follow your command without complaint it's being submissive, if they resist your command they feel like a douchebag.

Laughing takes the tesnion away from the situation. They still do what you tell you to do but they laugh to verify that they are not intimidated by you and you are not their master.
 
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Babnick how old are you???????? Your threads are absolutely worthless. Why don't u spend time reading the information on sosuave.com instead of starting these garbage threads.
 
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