"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When women ask you "do you have a girlfriend"?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
the pokemaster
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If you are a single guy, how would you respond to it?
And does that normally mean, they are somewhat attracted to you if they ask that?
Some married chick at work asked me this earlier.
In this world where game playin and mixed signals is every woman's favorite pastime you shouldnt take too seriously what some broad comes upwith in their head to ask you. It could be a wide variety of reasons why she asked- It could be that she has some personal interest but most likely its purely innocent. She probably figures that your'e a good guy and was wondering why you dont have a woman.
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If you are single, then all you have to say is that you are single, and if/when they ask you WHY, then you simply tell them that its because you choose to be. The continue to say that you are just taking your love life as it comes and when you meet someone special then you will know it, but till that time you are enjoying life for what it is.. You have friends, family, hobbies, parties, etc.verysuave said:
And if she asks you "How will you know when someone special comes along" then you reply saying something along the lines of "Well I have met and spent time with my fair share of women in my life, so I pretty much know what to look for, and what to look OUT for in a woman.
" Also remember to ask her about herself and HER love life as well, while you are on the topic.
Laterz...
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
TillTheEndOfTime
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Don't read into things so much and don't focus on the details. Take your interactions as whole. Look for the bigger picture.
So the question here is "how did she ask you?"... body language, eye contact, touching, smiling, etc.