when to follow-up date, make another?

[phoneproblems]

How long after a first date do you wait to call or email if you liked her and she said she had a good time? Do you setup a second date right then or make her wait?

I am thinking to just email a note tonight that I had a good time Sat. so she doesn't write me off -- but not setup another date now. We are both busy and I have a couple other dates lined up. Something like:

"Hey, Sat. was great, esp. enjoyed bla bla bla. I am super busy the next couple weeks but will definitely be back in touch. Good luck with ..."

Also, am I right that I should not add any questions in there requiring response? Since we have moved from online to real world I don't want to slide back into a virtual thing. You guys agree?

 

[phoneproblems]

okay, here's what I got back:

"I had a very nice time too. I would definitely be up for hanging out sometime. ... maybe [date] we could get together?"

Note the word "nice" (which I didn't use myself) as well as "hanging out" and "sometime" (didn't use those terms either).

Seems like low interest, right? I just got turned into one of her girlfriends?

 

[tmpgstx]

Sounds positive to me. The word *maybe* though is the kicker here.

Because you told her you were busy, then she threw that out there for you and with a specific date which is good.

She knows you're not asking her out as a friend, so this looks good.

 

[Heretolearn]

looks fine for the get to know you stage.

a) she replied quickly
b) she wanted to meet up again.


No time to get oneitis though