"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
when should u call a thursday number
- Thread starter bobbob
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
the answer is, when ever the hell you want, aslong as you do nto call same day, the wait 3 days is really not neccisery, waiting to long is bad, next day is fineOriginally posted by bobbob
saturday and make a date for sunday, or sunday and make a date for tuesday
jonny football hero
Master Don Juan
If I got a number on thursday, I'd call Sunday and setup a date for Tues/Wed.
I never call on Fri/Sat with someone unless the persons I am calling that same day I am planning to hang out with or an emergency/thanks for the sex call.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Maybe you're waiting too long to ask them out or asking them out for dates on days which they already have plans.Originally posted by bobbob
Nevermind, the answer was in the dj bible ... sunday it is!
wish me luck, last 30+ numbers have resulted in no date whatsoever
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
for instance if you talked to her for 10 min..wait a couple days...
if you talked to her for 3 hours...then call her the next day or maybe wait 1.
I dont agree with waiting 3 days.
unless your the president of the United States you can make 5 min to set up a date.
I get that it makes u seem busy but if you are confident you dont need to ****ing pretend. There is no way your ass is that busy if you are on here asking when to call ?
see ya!
good luck
If I got a number Thursday I would call whenever I wanted to bring someone along with me to something I'm doing. I always like to give a day or 2 notice unless its something really exciting that just came up and wanted to bring her along.
This whole call 3 days later to do a dinner and a movie is just the wrong way to think about it.
check_mate_kid_uk
Master Don Juan
so it seems like the only diffrence between us 'highschool kids' and you is that we can think for ourselves, you think you are so clever because you know you have to wait 3 days, you know it because you saw it on the dj bible!! you never thought maybe some of the stuff is not completly correct there, you take it word for word with out thinking on your own.Originally posted by DJ_Dork
You're getting answers from teens. In high school, it's all okay and stuff because people don't have much of a life.
If I got a number on thursday, I'd call Sunday and setup a date for Tues/Wed.
I never call on Fri/Sat with someone unless the persons I am calling that same day I am planning to hang out with or an emergency/thanks for the sex call.
we are saying 1 day becayse we know the 3 day rule is BS sure theres no harm in waiting a few days but its all fine aslong as its same day, and a lot of others think the same
a lot can happen in 3days including her getitng upset that you dont call, she then is mad at you for not calling and convinces hersalf she does not like you, intrest level drops to 0 and now its...good luck trying to set up a date.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
I met a girl Friday night..we had a 3 hour convo..made out and all that.
for one lets review...I could be getting ****ed over..its possible..but I know I have better judegement..
I live In St. Louis..as you know we have a team in the WS. I gave the girl I met..this wrist band..that is red that says go cards..its like the Lance Armstrong band.
We lost the game last night..so I called her and blammed the loss on her. I said Im gonna need that back now. she said "that can definitely be arranged"
she was a hb7-7.5 with a great personality..we are both 22.
I dont think I need to wait to ****ing tuesday to call her to show im busy.
come on...she knows im gonna watch the game...she know after the loss..im not going to be so busy I cant call her for 5 min.
as for anything in this world....my biggest belief is CONFIDENCE.
for the love of god...JUST BE SURE AND BELIEVE IN YOUR SELF. AND NO ONE CAN DOUBT YOU...NO ONE WILL SEE THREW YOU IF YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
see ya!
JT47319
Master Don Juan
anyways, i only talked to her for like 10 minutes, i don't think she'd be up for a booty call without some work ... i called today but got no answer