BongDuy
Master Don Juan
Like if you go on dates, that's still a bit open. but when is it official that you two are a couple? When she says "I love you" or something? after the seventh kiss or some ridiculous rule?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
when do you consider her your gf
- Thread starter BongDuy
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
LinkinParkROX
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Yep. You assume she's your girl from the first date on. This helps your whole mindset as well. Opening you up to Kino easily. Treat her like she's your girlfriend, because she is unless she says otherwise. Know that if she specifically, clearly tells you to back off and that she's not your girlfriend and she's not interested, the opposite is true - she is your girlfriend, and she's interested in you. Simple. 
Good luck, champ!
Good luck, champ! jeffthechef
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ypu..both guys above me are right
treat the first outing as if she was your gf...kino/talk as though she's yours
you're "official" when she tells you that you guys are
usually after the first kiss...she'll wonder what your status is..and finally ask if you guys are official...then you can decide
treat the first outing as if she was your gf...kino/talk as though she's yours
you're "official" when she tells you that you guys are
usually after the first kiss...she'll wonder what your status is..and finally ask if you guys are official...then you can decide
NYKfan0303
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When it's Facebook official! haha just kidding
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.