BongDuy
Master Don Juan
Like if you go on dates, that's still a bit open. but when is it official that you two are a couple? When she says "I love you" or something? after the seventh kiss or some ridiculous rule?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
when do you consider her your gf
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
LinkinParkROX
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Yep. You assume she's your girl from the first date on. This helps your whole mindset as well. Opening you up to Kino easily. Treat her like she's your girlfriend, because she is unless she says otherwise. Know that if she specifically, clearly tells you to back off and that she's not your girlfriend and she's not interested, the opposite is true - she is your girlfriend, and she's interested in you. Simple. 
Good luck, champ!
Good luck, champ! jeffthechef
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ypu..both guys above me are right
treat the first outing as if she was your gf...kino/talk as though she's yours
you're "official" when she tells you that you guys are
usually after the first kiss...she'll wonder what your status is..and finally ask if you guys are official...then you can decide
treat the first outing as if she was your gf...kino/talk as though she's yours
you're "official" when she tells you that you guys are
usually after the first kiss...she'll wonder what your status is..and finally ask if you guys are official...then you can decide
NYKfan0303
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When it's Facebook official! haha just kidding
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.