BongDuy
Master Don Juan
Like if you go on dates, that's still a bit open. but when is it official that you two are a couple? When she says "I love you" or something? after the seventh kiss or some ridiculous rule?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
when do you consider her your gf
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
LinkinParkROX
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Yep. You assume she's your girl from the first date on. This helps your whole mindset as well. Opening you up to Kino easily. Treat her like she's your girlfriend, because she is unless she says otherwise. Know that if she specifically, clearly tells you to back off and that she's not your girlfriend and she's not interested, the opposite is true - she is your girlfriend, and she's interested in you. Simple. 
Good luck, champ!
Good luck, champ! jeffthechef
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ypu..both guys above me are right
treat the first outing as if she was your gf...kino/talk as though she's yours
you're "official" when she tells you that you guys are
usually after the first kiss...she'll wonder what your status is..and finally ask if you guys are official...then you can decide
treat the first outing as if she was your gf...kino/talk as though she's yours
you're "official" when she tells you that you guys are
usually after the first kiss...she'll wonder what your status is..and finally ask if you guys are official...then you can decide
NYKfan0303
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When it's Facebook official! haha just kidding
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.