"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When Do I CAll Her?

CR103030

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Calling on all DJ's,

Met this girl while we were both on vacation a week ago. We happen to live in the same area. She will not be back in town for another 2 weeks.

Got her number after a brief C+F and very good rapport at the club. Should I call her in a couple a days, then call back in a week to set up a date? or should I just wait it out and call her in a couple of weeks?

Thanks guys.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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magickarl

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You want the real answer?

Whenever you damn well feel like it.

Instead of pretending to call at a time when it is "convenient" for you, how about you go on, live your life, get other numbers, and when you get bored in a week or so, give her a call and see whats up.

If she gave you her number, shes interested on some level.
 

CR103030

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I just thought waiting for 3 weeks is a little too long, and I usually don't call unless it's for setting up dates.

It's just weird to call for "just to talk".
 

AAAgent

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if u wait till after break it might be too long, just get in a quick coffee date or anything small. a quick lunch or tell her your new around here and ask her to show u around. say thanks and don't talk to her until a week after she gets back.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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