"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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when a girl comes to your apartment for the first time (SONGS)

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Blind Tiger by Layo & Bushwacka!

Who am I? By Peace Orchestra

Beauty Never Fades by Junkie XL

Big Wednesday By Freeland

Under The Gun By Supreme Beings Of Leisure

Mind you these are all ambience music, I think these would do very nicely when you want to chill out with your girl in the apartment.

It really sets a twilight sort of a mood.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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michaelhctam said:
Blind Tiger by Layo & Bushwacka!

Who am I? By Peace Orchestra

Beauty Never Fades by Junkie XL

Big Wednesday By Freeland

Under The Gun By Supreme Beings Of Leisure

Mind you these are all ambience music, I think these would do very nicely when you want to chill out with your girl in the apartment.

It really sets a twilight sort of a mood.

The only songs you want when she comes over are the ones coming from the music you produce between the sheets.

J/K, I totally agree with you, they should be ambience songs/music. The key is to have her relaxed and get comfortable. It is always good if she's never heard it before, so she will ask all about it, and you can talk about it, and display your qualities, and/or get into different conversations.

I like playing ambience type of music of known artists, but unknown songs that are on the cd's/albums.
 

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Spend the Night - Isley Brothers
Let's Make Love Tonight - Isley Brothers

On repeat.
 

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Crazy Biitch by Buckcherry. You guys are such geeks. No offense. The first guy anyway.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Freak Me - Silk

"Freak me baby..
BOOM BOOM..
Let me lick you up and down.."

Et cetera et cetera.
 

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ryannath said:
Crazy Biitch by Buckcherry. You guys are such geeks. No offense. The first guy anyway.
(-_-)?

Yeah......GEEK POWERS UNITE!!!

*GO GO POWER RANGERS, DEE DEE DEEEE DEEE DEEE, GO GO POWER RANGERS*......

(o_0)"

Your quite cool yourself.....YEAHH YOUR COOL.
 

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I used to do that whole "just put itunes on shuffle" thing. It didn't work out too well. Some stuff just doesn't set the mood.

I've learned that whole albums are the way to go. Song by song gets annoying. So I pick bands like The Shins, Coldplay, Nick Drake or Elliott Smith.

These guys all make albums that you can just put on and play the whole thing without having to worry about a big loud drum solo while you're getting cozy.
 

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Air - Play ground Love
Brazilian Girls - Lazy Lover
DJ Marky - moments of lust
Ian Pooley
Zero 7 all 3 albums
Beatles - (depending how cool and down to earth she is)
Amy Winehouse - both albums

anything from Naked Music Recordings

Any thing from Brazil (samba/bossa nova/rock)

any Liquid Drum & Bass

any Lounge (Deep House/ House / Funk tech step / minimal funk tech step / trip hop / fusion)

acid jazz

broken beat

UK Garage

classic jazz - (worked for me)
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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