Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I like it a lot..Only problem is, im on a dating site, looking fora girls lol. Im not sure how to put that into works to make me seem like the prize.powpow said:depends on the girl.
I either make a funny joke, like that I like them morbidly obese
or
if the girls serious, you can just tell her that youre not looking for a girl period... and to have a certain list really closes off options. this has always worked really really well for me. makes it seem like you dont give a ****, makes you seem like a prize, and makes her even more curious and competitive. also makes you seem like you dont sit around thinking about what you want in a girl. overall, supremely baller move
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Her: "So what do you look for in a girl?"Crissco said:What answers do you normally give without giving out too much info?
Thats what I did, no response on this one. Probably just her.Poonani Maker said:I tell them Exactly what I'm looking for in a girl, and I rank those criteria right in front of her, in order.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Ive actually been said thatto before, she goes dont describe me. Thats basically qualifying you self herself which is the exact opposite of what you want when u first start out.RSanders219 said:A girl asked me this last night that I'm sort of into, she asked me what kind of eyes/hair and other things like that.. I pretty much described her back to herself haha. Joked around with her a bit, but then ended it on saying it's really all about personality to me.
If she liked me, and i told her what interested me, and she never replied back..Doesnt make sense?Jack-Torrance said:It means she likes you, blatantly.
1. Do you have a girlfriend?
2. What do you look for in a girl?
If you hear a girl say those things and it doesn't fit into the conversation, it's pretty definite.
Its like a catch 22..I like the idea of ranking them in order, like a list.Poonani Maker said:I tell them Exactly what I'm looking for in a girl, and I rank those criteria right in front of her, in order.
If a chick looks into it that deeply, then she's an uptight prick and deserves to spend the rest of her days scouring the internet because real life men won't talk to her.Crissco said:Its like a catch 22..I like the idea of ranking them in order, like a list.
But then thinking about what powwow said with the having not having any specific makes it seem like you dont know what u want in a girl and will take anything desperate.
The joke idea sounds good, but there are times to get serious and not joke around, and thats one of them
I have no idea which one to choose. haha
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
This. Actually I think it's the perfect opportunity for a joke, neg-hit etc. (depending on the context).Iceberg said:Just throw a joke at her and be done with it.
Whether she replies or not doesn't really matter. It's a giant sign that she's interested... Either that or she has a female friend that likes you who she wants to hook you up with. Something along those lines, but very likely that SHE likes you.Crissco said:If she liked me, and i told her what interested me, and she never replied back..Doesnt make sense?
It seems when girls ask me this then I tell them the truth like what im really into, they seem to loose a little bit off attraction..
Thats why i like the first answer the best, still leaves mystery.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.