Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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When a girl asks what do you look for in a girl?

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What answers do you normally give without giving out too much info?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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depends on the girl.

I either make a funny joke, like that I like them morbidly obese

or

if the girls serious, you can just tell her that youre not looking for a girl period... and to have a certain list really closes off options. this has always worked really really well for me. makes it seem like you dont give a ****, makes you seem like a prize, and makes her even more curious and competitive. also makes you seem like you dont sit around thinking about what you want in a girl. overall, supremely baller move
 

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powpow said:
depends on the girl.

I either make a funny joke, like that I like them morbidly obese

or

if the girls serious, you can just tell her that youre not looking for a girl period... and to have a certain list really closes off options. this has always worked really really well for me. makes it seem like you dont give a ****, makes you seem like a prize, and makes her even more curious and competitive. also makes you seem like you dont sit around thinking about what you want in a girl. overall, supremely baller move
I like it a lot..Only problem is, im on a dating site, looking fora girls lol. Im not sure how to put that into works to make me seem like the prize.

Maybe I can say something like, "not looking for anyone specific, bc having lists like that closes off my options"...???

Still makes it seems like im not desperate at the same time, still looking for someone.
 

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I tell them Exactly what I'm looking for in a girl, and I rank those criteria right in front of her, in order.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Crissco said:
What answers do you normally give without giving out too much info?
Her: "So what do you look for in a girl?"

Me: "My penis."

Slap!
 

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Poonani Maker said:
I tell them Exactly what I'm looking for in a girl, and I rank those criteria right in front of her, in order.
Thats what I did, no response on this one. Probably just her.

Powpows was pretty good though, might give it a shot. Still leaves some mystery
 

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It means she likes you, blatantly.

1. Do you have a girlfriend?
2. What do you look for in a girl?

If you hear a girl say those things and it doesn't fit into the conversation, it's pretty definite.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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A girl asked me this last night that I'm sort of into, she asked me what kind of eyes/hair and other things like that.. I pretty much described her back to herself haha. Joked around with her a bit, but then ended it on saying it's really all about personality to me.
 

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RSanders219 said:
A girl asked me this last night that I'm sort of into, she asked me what kind of eyes/hair and other things like that.. I pretty much described her back to herself haha. Joked around with her a bit, but then ended it on saying it's really all about personality to me.
Ive actually been said thatto before, she goes dont describe me. Thats basically qualifying you self herself which is the exact opposite of what you want when u first start out.

But I agree its all about personality.
 

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Jack-Torrance said:
It means she likes you, blatantly.

1. Do you have a girlfriend?
2. What do you look for in a girl?

If you hear a girl say those things and it doesn't fit into the conversation, it's pretty definite.
If she liked me, and i told her what interested me, and she never replied back..Doesnt make sense?
It seems when girls ask me this then I tell them the truth like what im really into, they seem to loose a little bit off attraction..

Thats why i like the first answer the best, still leaves mystery.
 

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I tell them Exactly what I'm looking for in a girl, and I rank those criteria right in front of her, in order.
Its like a catch 22..I like the idea of ranking them in order, like a list.

But then thinking about what powwow said with the having not having any specific makes it seem like you dont know what u want in a girl and will take anything desperate.

The joke idea sounds good, but there are times to get serious and not joke around, and thats one of them


I have no idea which one to choose. haha



Thanks to my cuz, I think I got it cap-i-ton!

If you looking for a relationship: Im looking for a girl who I can bring home to mom and dad

If you looking for a quick ****: Im looking for a girl who likes to have a good time
 

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Crissco said:
Its like a catch 22..I like the idea of ranking them in order, like a list.

But then thinking about what powwow said with the having not having any specific makes it seem like you dont know what u want in a girl and will take anything desperate.

The joke idea sounds good, but there are times to get serious and not joke around, and thats one of them


I have no idea which one to choose. haha
If a chick looks into it that deeply, then she's an uptight prick and deserves to spend the rest of her days scouring the internet because real life men won't talk to her.

Just throw a joke at her and be done with it. I mean honestly, I dont even know what I'm looking for in a woman. If she has similar qualities, great we can share things. If she's different, great I can learn new stuff. Just be cool is all I ask.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Iceberg said:
Just throw a joke at her and be done with it.
This. Actually I think it's the perfect opportunity for a joke, neg-hit etc. (depending on the context).

What's worse, I find, is when you're lying in bed with a girl and she asks you, "What are you thinking?" I can't really be honest and tell her that I'm planning out my Masters dissertation; she wants me to say something serious about the relationship...
 

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What joke would you guys say? Cant think of anything right now, its 3 in the morning lol
 

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Crissco said:
If she liked me, and i told her what interested me, and she never replied back..Doesnt make sense?
It seems when girls ask me this then I tell them the truth like what im really into, they seem to loose a little bit off attraction..

Thats why i like the first answer the best, still leaves mystery.
Whether she replies or not doesn't really matter. It's a giant sign that she's interested... Either that or she has a female friend that likes you who she wants to hook you up with. Something along those lines, but very likely that SHE likes you.

Think about it, why would you ever ask a girl what she looks for in a guy?
 

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nice @ss, nice titties, can shake it in bed, & does the dishes
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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