"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
When a girl asks what do you look for in a girl?
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
powpow
Senior Don Juan
I either make a funny joke, like that I like them morbidly obese
or
if the girls serious, you can just tell her that youre not looking for a girl period... and to have a certain list really closes off options. this has always worked really really well for me. makes it seem like you dont give a ****, makes you seem like a prize, and makes her even more curious and competitive. also makes you seem like you dont sit around thinking about what you want in a girl. overall, supremely baller move
Crissco
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I like it a lot..Only problem is, im on a dating site, looking fora girls lol. Im not sure how to put that into works to make me seem like the prize.powpow said:
Maybe I can say something like, "not looking for anyone specific, bc having lists like that closes off my options"...???
Still makes it seems like im not desperate at the same time, still looking for someone.
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Rollo Tomassi
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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Her: "So what do you look for in a girl?"Crissco said:
Me: "My penis."
Slap!
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1. Do you have a girlfriend?
2. What do you look for in a girl?
If you hear a girl say those things and it doesn't fit into the conversation, it's pretty definite.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Crissco
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Ive actually been said thatto before, she goes dont describe me. Thats basically qualifying you self herself which is the exact opposite of what you want when u first start out.RSanders219 said:
But I agree its all about personality.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
If she liked me, and i told her what interested me, and she never replied back..Doesnt make sense?Jack-Torrance said:
It seems when girls ask me this then I tell them the truth like what im really into, they seem to loose a little bit off attraction..
Thats why i like the first answer the best, still leaves mystery.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Its like a catch 22..I like the idea of ranking them in order, like a list.Poonani Maker said:
But then thinking about what powwow said with the having not having any specific makes it seem like you dont know what u want in a girl and will take anything desperate.
The joke idea sounds good, but there are times to get serious and not joke around, and thats one of them
I have no idea which one to choose. haha
Thanks to my cuz, I think I got it cap-i-ton!
If you looking for a relationship: Im looking for a girl who I can bring home to mom and dad
If you looking for a quick ****: Im looking for a girl who likes to have a good time
Iceberg
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If a chick looks into it that deeply, then she's an uptight prick and deserves to spend the rest of her days scouring the internet because real life men won't talk to her.Crissco said:
Just throw a joke at her and be done with it. I mean honestly, I dont even know what I'm looking for in a woman. If she has similar qualities, great we can share things. If she's different, great I can learn new stuff. Just be cool is all I ask.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Sophomakhos
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This. Actually I think it's the perfect opportunity for a joke, neg-hit etc. (depending on the context).Iceberg said:
What's worse, I find, is when you're lying in bed with a girl and she asks you, "What are you thinking?" I can't really be honest and tell her that I'm planning out my Masters dissertation; she wants me to say something serious about the relationship...
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Whether she replies or not doesn't really matter. It's a giant sign that she's interested... Either that or she has a female friend that likes you who she wants to hook you up with. Something along those lines, but very likely that SHE likes you.Crissco said:
Think about it, why would you ever ask a girl what she looks for in a guy?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.