Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I like it a lot..Only problem is, im on a dating site, looking fora girls lol. Im not sure how to put that into works to make me seem like the prize.powpow said:depends on the girl.
I either make a funny joke, like that I like them morbidly obese
or
if the girls serious, you can just tell her that youre not looking for a girl period... and to have a certain list really closes off options. this has always worked really really well for me. makes it seem like you dont give a ****, makes you seem like a prize, and makes her even more curious and competitive. also makes you seem like you dont sit around thinking about what you want in a girl. overall, supremely baller move
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Her: "So what do you look for in a girl?"Crissco said:What answers do you normally give without giving out too much info?
Thats what I did, no response on this one. Probably just her.Poonani Maker said:I tell them Exactly what I'm looking for in a girl, and I rank those criteria right in front of her, in order.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ive actually been said thatto before, she goes dont describe me. Thats basically qualifying you self herself which is the exact opposite of what you want when u first start out.RSanders219 said:A girl asked me this last night that I'm sort of into, she asked me what kind of eyes/hair and other things like that.. I pretty much described her back to herself haha. Joked around with her a bit, but then ended it on saying it's really all about personality to me.
If she liked me, and i told her what interested me, and she never replied back..Doesnt make sense?Jack-Torrance said:It means she likes you, blatantly.
1. Do you have a girlfriend?
2. What do you look for in a girl?
If you hear a girl say those things and it doesn't fit into the conversation, it's pretty definite.
Its like a catch 22..I like the idea of ranking them in order, like a list.Poonani Maker said:I tell them Exactly what I'm looking for in a girl, and I rank those criteria right in front of her, in order.
If a chick looks into it that deeply, then she's an uptight prick and deserves to spend the rest of her days scouring the internet because real life men won't talk to her.Crissco said:Its like a catch 22..I like the idea of ranking them in order, like a list.
But then thinking about what powwow said with the having not having any specific makes it seem like you dont know what u want in a girl and will take anything desperate.
The joke idea sounds good, but there are times to get serious and not joke around, and thats one of them
I have no idea which one to choose. haha
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
This. Actually I think it's the perfect opportunity for a joke, neg-hit etc. (depending on the context).Iceberg said:Just throw a joke at her and be done with it.
Whether she replies or not doesn't really matter. It's a giant sign that she's interested... Either that or she has a female friend that likes you who she wants to hook you up with. Something along those lines, but very likely that SHE likes you.Crissco said:If she liked me, and i told her what interested me, and she never replied back..Doesnt make sense?
It seems when girls ask me this then I tell them the truth like what im really into, they seem to loose a little bit off attraction..
Thats why i like the first answer the best, still leaves mystery.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.